I can't stand to even be in the same room with this kid, I'm so sick of his crap.  

SS18 has chosen to bomb his senior year and not do anything to prepare for his future automotive education in the fall.  No job, no drivers license, no plans to go to auto school at our excellent community college in the fall.  Since the rules of the house are that after high school you must either be enrolled in school or some kind of trade/apprenticeship/program and be working part-time.  Since SS18 isn't doing either of those, he cannot live with us so BM has agreed to take SS18 in after graduation.

Yesterday was N8's birthday, my dad came over for pizza and cake.  He knows the deal with SS18 and I overheard Dad asking SS18 about a job, future plans, etc.......SS18 starts talking about how he is going to take a year off and work so he can save up and go back to school and doesn't have to take out any student loans, blah blah blah......sounds nice, right?  Except it's a BIG FAT LIE!!!!  After the festivities and all company was gone, I confronted SS18 and said, "Wow, so that was a nice bowl of BS that you gave my Dad about going to school."  Blank stare from SS18.  I ask "How is it that you are working to save money for school and avoid student loans when your Dad was going to pay for it?"  Another blank stare.  I say, "I know it's embarrassing to admit you blew it off and aren't going, but you will not be allowed to LIE and make people think that it's because your Dad won't pay for it!"  SS18 says, "I never said that Dad won't pay for school!"  I say, "You are INSINUATING that your Dad won't pay, and it's a LIE!"  Then SS18 says, "Well, I want to pay for it so Dad won't have to."  I say "ANOTHER LIE!!!!!  You just made that up!"  DH paid for cc college for SD24 and would have for SD20 but she chose not to go.

DH in the meantime, is trying to get me to calm down and says that maybe SS18 or my Dad misunderstood or that I misheard......oh HELL NO!!!!  No one mistook or misheard or misunderstood anything!!!!!  I ended the conversation with telling both SS18 and DH that I will not allow SS18 to tell lies and throw his father under the bus for his own poor decisions.  That I will CORRECT SS18 whenever he tries this story again and if he is embarrassed in front of others......good, he should be embarrassed!  

And I talked to my Dad today........he WAS wondering why DH wasn't going to pay for school for SS18....I cleared that right up.  I'm still so freaking mad about this.  I am working so hard on this disengagement thing......I don't look/ask at grades, tardies, absences from school, getting a job, getting a drivers license, automotive school....nothing that doesn't affect my life, livelihood, or home.  But I will NOT sit back and let this kid tell lies about DH.  Grrrrrrr.........I'm so ANGRY all the dang time.  I hate it.  I hate feeling this way, I hate feeling grumpy, I hate wanting to put SS18's head through a wall every time I see him.  I'm at the point where I'm telling SS18 today that if he is not doing school work, looking for a job, getting his drivers license, or preparing for his future in anyway that he needs to be out of my face and out of the way.  He sits at the table and plays with his phone 24/7 when he's not in school.  I just can't stand it.