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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 11:41am

TGIF. While I enjoy a 3-day weekend, the following 4-day work week is always chaotic. Who else isn't a fan of cramming 5 days of work into 4?

Eff off to: 

  • Cancer. Lost a friend last night to colon cancer. He put up one helluva fight and held on much longer than expected, but his fighting days have come to an end. Through it all, he never stopped trying to make us laugh and always had a kind word for everyone - a valuable lesson indeed. While I'm thankful he is no longer in pain, my heart aches over the loss. 

Nothing else today. I'm emotionally drained. 

Hug your loved ones and tell them how much they mean to you. You never know when it will be the last chance you have to say it. 

Wishing you a stress-free, healthy, and enjoyable weekend. 

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Submitted by PB on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 11:59am

Hope you are all ok. 

I am very stressed, sd is here with us now and she is going to stay for weekend, because her shitty mom enjoys her time. Dh ruined my only day off and he didnt as my opinion. I hate to be in this situation. No this weekend doesnt seem stress free or nice for me. I feel very alone and dh gets angry when I talk to him. I dont have anyone to talk....

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:13pm

Hon, you have been posting the same thing for 2 years and nothing has changed. Your DH is a part-time father and wants to see his child. You have options:

  • DH can take visitation with SD outside of your home. You won't see SD. But you won't see your DH either.
  • Look for another job with hours that allow you to spend one-on-one time with your DH.
  • Try to change your mindset. SD is what... 8-10? Visitation won't end for years.

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:10pm

So sorry for your loss. My DBF lost his dad to colon cancer a few years ago. I am glad that your friend could still manage to make other's laugh and was very kind. I would hold those memories close for sure. 

I work 5 days a week, 8-10 hours a day depending on the work load. Some days I will have abolutely nothing, and then other days I just can't seem to catch up or have the time to just breathe. I hope that your weekend is less stressful and you can find some time to have at least a self care day. It's always important. 

I don't have either of the kids this weekend, and DBF works, so I am jumping in my hot tub tomorrow night, having a glass of wine and hopefully getting some much needed sleep since my anxiety has been throug the roof all week!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:18pm

Thank you, cmd88. He was a YUGE hockey fan. I plan to turn on the TV tomorrow (rare for me), watch some hockey, and drink his favorite beer. 

Hot tub and a glass of wine spund like a lovely way to unwind. Enjoy!

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:34pm

That sounds like a really good idea! TV can be quite relaxing, especially if you don't watch it much. Who was his favorite team? Maybe you can get a jersey or something made with your friends last name on the back of his team and just have it for a nice memory or something. Just a thought. 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:01pm

I'd rather listen to Sibelius! Lol

He was a Red Wings fan. A highlight of his life was seeing the Red Wings play the Blues at the oldest in-use indoor ice rink (our neck of the woods). No idea if they're even playing this weekend. I'll turn on whatever is playing.

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:04pm

Heck yes! The wings are from our state Wink I think that they play Dallas tonight at 7:30 p.m. eastern time, and they also play on Saturday at 8:30 p.m. eastern time. Enjoy! Biggrin

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:42pm

Sorry for your loss. eff off to cancer and any disease that takes our loved ones way too soon.

This week has been quiet at work. I was expecting craziness tuesday onwards but nope. Its been a good week.

This weekend I have a date. He has three adult daughters who needed to interview me first LOL JK on the daughters part. I would NEVER EVER go that route again.

So eff off to disney dads who create mini wife/mini husbands.

Blessings Y'all 

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:43pm

Here here! I will drink to that.....well as soon as i'm off of work. Eff off to disney dads who create mini wives for sure!

Have a great weekend :D 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:03pm

Gads, woman. My heart skipped a beat over that interview caca. Don't do that to me!

Have fun! *give_rose*

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:40pm

And yes! Goodluck and have fun on your date. How exciting!

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 12:57pm

Eff off to PUPPP. I am 36 weeks pregnant and two weeks ago I was diagnosed with a PUPPP rash. It isnt threatening to the baby or to me, but it itches constantly and it covers 80% of my body in either large bumps or full plaque like rashes. Only my chest, neck, and face are spared. I was in the hospital for treatment on Friday last week and they prescribed steroids and said there is nothing that can be done; the rash will go away on its own when I deliver. The doctor on call was surprised; she said she had never seen a case as bad as mine. The steroids didn't do much, so I'm basically itching in agony all the time. Think mosquito bites or poison ivy all over the body and the need to itch every inch of skin constantly. DH has bought me oatmeal bath, creams, and ice packs to try to relieve some of the itching, but no luck. I'm going to talk to my OB on Monday about an induction around 38 weeks because there is no way I can make it 4 more weeks with this rash and itching. 

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:01pm

Yikes, that sounds miserable!! Sad Have you tried calimine lotion? I use it on my SD12's rashes (shes allergic to cold) and last time her entire face broke out in hives. I put that on her and within minutes she stopped itching and it took the redness away. It is safe to use while pregnant and people use it to treat rashes, poisen ivy, etc.... I hope that you start feeling better!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:06pm

I'm sorry to hear that, CastleJJ. Is benadryl cream an option?  Hope you get some relief soon! 

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:20pm

Benadryl cream has provided slight relief. The only issue is that I can only use it sparingly. I can't use it all over due since it is medicated. It helps provide temporary relief to the sensitive areas like ankles, hands, wrists, and back of knees. 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:20pm

Check with your doctor about trying this:

Empty 1-2 benadryl capsules in a quart of water and pat the water lightly over your spots with a soft cloth. I do that when I have a wicked case of poison ivy.

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Submitted by secondplace on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:21pm

Have you tried Deep Cold or something like that with a high percentage of menthol?  My mom had gallbladder cancer and was in a state of agony as well.  She didn't have a rash (it was the bile acids released into her bloodstream that caused the itching), but that was the only thing that helped her.  None of the prescriptions worked at all.  Anyway, I wish you luck and hope it goes away soon.

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Submitted by caninelover on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:20pm

To work...forever!  I early retire today!  OMG so excited for Monday now LOL.

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Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:44pm

Congratulations and I am so stoked for ya. Yay!!!!!!

Now you will have all the time in the world to go visit Bratty and Nutter GF   ;)

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Submitted by caninelover on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 5:36pm

This feels so incredibly...freeing!

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Submitted by cmd88 on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:41pm

Congrats on your retirement!

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Submitted by caninelover on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 5:36pm

Thanks!

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Submitted by ESMOD on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 1:22pm

So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.  We lost a friend to that a couple of years ago. It's a good reminder to get our checkups and colonoscopies.. and mamograms when they are indicated.  (not saying your friend didn't do all he should have or could have known to do.. but if caught early it can be more treatable I think).

hugs

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:22pm

Thsnk you, ESMOD. What really sucks is that he kept putting off a colonoscopy. My sister had breast and end endometrial cancer at the same time. I get mammograms and paps every year without fail. 

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Submitted by secondplace on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 2:25pm

Agree with the colonoscopy recommendation.  My mom did the fecal occult blood test every year and passed with flying colours.  After receiving another congratulatory letter telling her she was free of colon cancer, her bowel ruptured due to a giant tumour.

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Submitted by PetSpoiler on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 5:22pm

Ani I'm so sorry about your friend!  I lost my dad in 2001 to colon cancer.  By the time they found it, it had already spread to other organs.  He lived 19 months after his diagnosis though.  He was only 57. Both of my grandmothers had colon cancer too but they survived.  My maternal grandmother was only in her early forties.  I had my first colonoscopy last year and it was all clear.  I have to go back every five years due to family history.  My husband had one done last year too and they found precancerous polyps so he has to go back every 3 years. Yet he was worried about me with my family history. 

Eff off to cancer!  Because of it my kids never got to meet their grandpa.  Because of cancer my paternal grandmother had to bury two children.  Then she had to deal with it herself.  I hate cancer.  

Eff off to the moron who felt the need to honk their horn at me when I was trying to turn into my driveway.  Hello, you kinda have to slow down to turn into my driveway. If you're in that much of a hurry, go around me you jerk! 

Eff off to Wal-Mart for making it so confusing on where things are.  It reminds me of why I prefer to shop online and pick it up.  

Eff off cold weather! 

Eff off anxiety and panic attacks!  Go away, nobody likes you! 

I'm better now.  I came home and got some snuggle time with Princess Popcorn the guinea pig so that helped.  She, Princess Twerp and Princess Chatty are doing so much better at sharing their massive cage.  Twerp has been the most accepting of Chatty, but Popcorn has gotten a lot nicer.  She allows Chatty around her without nipping her.  Still miss Queen Squeaky.  

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 5:48pm

Thank you, PetSpoiler. I'm sorry you lost your father at such a young age. {{{hugs}}}

My paternal grandfather passed away on Christmas Eve when I was 9yo. I'm thankful I had some time with him. He was a wonderful man. 

How heartbreaking to bury children and grandchildren! Cancer is a monster. :'(

Furbabies and their unconditional love are awesome!

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 9:53pm

Have you considered genetic testing? My father, sister, niece and I all have Lynch Syndrome. It predisposes us to colon, stomach, ovarian, and several other cancers - with colon being the most prevelent. I had ovarian cancer when I was 35 and colon cancer in my mid fifties. My Dad had colon and stomach and prostate - the stomach cancer spread to his liver and that is what killed him. Interestingly, my sister has never had any problems and my niece is young. The advantage to knowing is we can have yearly screenings and catch anything early.

I was diagnosed first, before genetic testing was a "thing." 15 years after my diagnosis, my Dad had his first cancer. I did the genetic testing then and was worried about the BRCA gene - instead they found the Lynch. Then both my parents got tested and they found the Lynch in my Dad.

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Submitted by Elea on Fri, 01/21/2022 - 10:39pm

Eff off to cancer ... I lost my Mom to cancer when I was 15. I am so sorry for your loss.

Here's to both SDiablas being back in their own states of residence. SDiabla22 *finally* went back to college this week. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh ... So nice not to have her constantly calling on DH to go out with *just* her with no regard for our day.

My apologizes to those of you that are still in the thick of it. Been there done that and don't want to go back. I am relishing in - SD's are grown!

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Submitted by TheAccidentalSM on Sat, 01/22/2022 - 10:02am

I'm sorry for the cancer loss.  Such a horrible disease.  (((hugs)))

Pleased for canine's retirement.  My DH is semi retired and seems to be loving it but I'm a long way off.

My own EFF OFF is to work.  I'm working on a project that was due to finish yesterday.  At the very last minute (think just about 5 minutes to the end of the official working week) the lawyers and a senior exec decided to throw in a massively curve ball.  I was so annoyed.  We look like a bunch of horrible untrustworthy muppets to the poor external people we've been working with.  The only upside is that the area with the problem has zero to do with me and I have no skills to fix the issue. So I didn't have to work all night and weekend to try to find a solution.

I'll have to see what Monday brings but it will suck if all my hardwork over the last 3 months gets binned.  Sigh.

 

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Sat, 01/22/2022 - 10:06am

TASM, glad you aren't spending the weekend fixing muppet  curveballs!