BioHo is a mother...
I am absolutely furious. SD31 called me about 3am, sobbing. She was crying so hard and so upset, I could not understand her and asked if her DH was there would she give him the phone. He was. She had a miscarriage. I told him I'd be there ASAP. My DH was already awake and getting ready for work. Told him what happened, grabbed purse and keys, and flew out the door.
I texted Mr SD31 when I got to the parking lot, raced inside to the ER, and hit a wall with little Miss Snotty Pants. "No visitors unless you're family," she snipped through her pursed lips and wrinkled nose. I was ready to ram the doors when Mr SD31 slammed his hand on the desk and said, "This is my wife's MOM." *shok*
Aside from my own miscarriage many years ago, this was my first experience dealing with someone who had literally just lost her baby and was clueless what to do or say. There was SD31 lying on an ER bed, sobbing so hard my heart damn near broke. I knelt by the bed, touched her shoulder and said, "I'm here for you." Her eyes flew open, she struggled up, threw her arms around me, and cried harder. "You came! Oh you came! Thank you! I love you!!" And proceeded to drown my shirt with tears and mucus and I did not care. I just held on.
After a lot of crying and tons of tissues, I got the rest of the story. This was SD's second miscarriage. The first was 3 years ago and couple months before SS25's wedding. She called BioHo and asked her to come to the hospital. She was crying (well, duh) and that piss poor excuse of a human said to SD, "I can't deal with you crying" and hung up on her. 
Someone please tell me how anyone can do that??? I do not have any bios, but I cannot imagine acting like that. I swear if I see that bloody b!tch any time soon I will drop kick her nasty ass right into Lake Superior. Who does this?!?!
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My Dog, that woman is
My Dog, that woman is HORRIBLE. So glad you could be there for SD.
I had a miscarriage too when I was in my 30s. People say and do weird things. But BioHo--just wow.
Hope SD is gentle with herself as she heals.
I know this happened 3 years
I know this happened 3 years ago, but am so angry. How 'Ho could just... dismiss her own child who was (is) so obviously devastated. I have no words.
Shes a Ho-B!tch
Thats horrible. Im glad that Sd has you.
And b!tch is too mild of a
And b!tch is too mild of a word...
I have nothing to say other
I have nothing to say other than I am so glad that your stepkids know who lives them and cares for them. We need more like you in this world Aniki.
Winterglow, it's so kind of
Winterglow, it's so kind of you to say that. *give_rose*
I consider some of it to be basic kindness and decency and honestly do not understand how a mother could do that to her daughter who just lost her baby (her grandchild). WTH??? 'Ho is inhuman.
"Evil"
"Evil" is the appropriate word here. OMG.
Yes, it is!
Yes, it is!
You're an angel. So glad you
You're an angel. So glad you were there for her!
I'm not, but thank you la
I'm not, but thank you la_dulce_vida. *give_rose* How could anyone not be there when someone is devastated and asking for help?
So sorry….
Prayers and healing for your SD and extended family.
Thank you, Trudie.
Thank you, Trudie.
So, as the stepmother, are
So, as the stepmother, are you saying you’re closer to your stepdaughter than her own mother? Have you two formed a bond rooted in love, compassion, and maturity? I can see that connection from your perspective. How did it grow and develop over time? That sounds like an interesting story worth sharing. The BM's story, not so much. Just another toxic person taking up space, sorry to say.
Yes @aniki when do you think
Yes @aniki when do you think the shift happened? I remeber stories of wedding showers and family events where BM was way out of line and you remained a constant grounded force. Could it be all the events adding up for SD?
My SKIDs mom was a drug addict and very erratic behavior - even with consistent grounded behavior for 10+ years I seem to be in a constant cycle of punishment but maybe someday?
ImperfectlyPerfect, I believe
ImperfectlyPerfect, I believe it was a combination of the SDs learning that BioHo lied about me (and DH) A LOT, and me continuing to be myself.
'Ho loves 3 things: money, alcohol, and sex. Alcohol makes her meaner and nastier and a key reason all of the skids moved out of the 'Ho House at the ages of 16-18. DH and I have been together going on 15 years. Things started improving with the oldest skid about 6 years ago and I now have a strong relationship with all four. It has been a looooong road.
Toaster, you sound like a
Toaster, you sound like a reporter digging for dirt... *nea*
Yes she does....... *help*
Yes she does....... *help*
Maybe she's here eith the
Maybe she's here with the hope of writing a stephell novel. *unknw*
Some people
Really should not be. Parents. [people] loose term
Nailed it again, Harry!
Short and right to the point, Harry. Your posts always resonate with me. I wish that I could hit the 'upvote button' a few more times but, alas.....
So true, Harry.
So true, Harry.
Ani, we’ve been communicating
Ani, we’ve been communicating, one way or another, for the last decade or so. During that time, I’ve become increasingly impressed by your kindness, tolerance and empathy. I was unsurprised when Dawn designated you as a moderator/diplomat on StepTalk; you were the perfect choice.
During the difficult years with your stepchildren (mostly engineered by their horrific mother), you were reluctant to criticize them in any meaningful way. You made excuses for their behaviour, primarily because of neglectful, poisonous Ho’, but also because they were your DEAR husband’s children whom you were determined to support and love.
Gradually, those steps (one of whom was not even related to your DH) gravitated to a stepmom who had remained the sane, trustworthy, maternal individual who’d married their dad. When we stepmoms/dads read about our BM’s PAS and the powerful influence that it imposes on our shared children, your success in bonding with your steps is downright awesome.
You’re a modest gal, Ani, and I apologize for embarrassing you. However, you are the glue that keeps this site together. You deserve all of the respect, plus each accolade, aired on this post. ♥️
Grannyd, you humble me with
Grannyd, you humble me with your accolades.
"Patience is a virtue" and a long, hard lesson for me to learn, but my relationship with all of the skids is proof that it pays off - at least for DH and me. Thankfully, the skids were all able to get past 'Ho's toxicity and PAS. We are very blessed. (Psssst... two of the skids are DH's bios.)
And you, my dear grannyd, are also a blessing. *give_rose*
Sorry to hear about your SD
Sorry to hear about your SD
Some of these bio moms are toxic c*nts
Thanks, Lillywy00.
Thanks, Lillywy00.
Yes, they truly are.
HA! That's some plain
HA! That's some plain speaking, Lilly! And no one knows better than you, about 'toxic c*nts '. I'll bet that she's missing her 'breaks' while your ex was at work and she was happy to dump her 'no house training, bumps on logs' with poor you.
Bioho is horrible excuse
Bioho is horrible excuse barely passing as human!!
Sad, but true, wolflady.
Sad, but true, wolflady.
I didn't reply until now
I didn't reply until now because i was just too mad reading about it. Poor SD having this POS for a mother. And poor you for having had to deal with her and her BS all these years.
Rumple, one worry is what
Rumple, one worry is what kind of mental damage 'Ho did to the skids with her BS. I pray that DH being the calm in the eye of the storm made a world of difference.