SD's birthday was Friday and WOW. She wasn't in the door 30 seconds when she started venting about BM. Now I think this has been building because she has spent more time (total of 9 hours) with BM this past month then she had in the past year. Nails twice (just nails and back).. SD went with her on the 10th to her house for birthday party for BMs father and then she went out to dinner with BM on birthday. 
 

These are copy/paste text I sent to SO about what SD was telling me: 

Highlights from SD's dinner:

•Mom pretends she didn’t get a stimulus 

•She paid off her credit card

•she paid off a dental bill

•has new Michael Koors glasses

•has new coach purse 

•went on a Amazon shopping spree

•made her old bedroom into an office 

•has 3 new TVs in her kitchen alone 

•tries to guilt SD into “hanging” out with her with pictures of them as babies 

•SD said she doesn’t really put an effort in though 

•feels BM should help you.

•SD said BM is greedy. 

Then there was this: 

Oh! Don’t know how old this is but... about apparently the mom (BM's mother)  got fired from her job and people were putting razor blades in her desk (?) so she sued and won so that’s why the kids are getting $50 for their birthdays and Xmas.

Now... the stimulus thing. SD said when she was over BMs for the bday party BMs mom goes "OH BM you got a stimulus right?? BM was like nooo I didn't!!! LOLLL ok BM!! SO laughed at this and was like thrown under the bus again!! BMs mother was the one to tell him BM was cheating on him.

I said to SO why the f is she telling SD that she paid of this and that??!! Nothing better to talk about besides yourself?? Also... telling her about her psycho moms razor blades in her desk??! Like what??!!! SO goes well I'm not the only one the hates her! LOLL. 

I said to SD.. like I've told her before don't ever feel guilty for your moms choices. I went into a little of my personal situation with my mother and stuff. SD understands. 

BM is so lost at the fact these kids aren't stupid and are getting older so it's not like they don't know what's going on. The name brand shit for example.. SD is 14.. knows about name brands, knows they are expensive.. etc. She always lied to them about the dumbest stuff and it doesn't work anymore. 
 

Once again... BM is delusional in so many ways. 

Also, the bday party for BMs dad SS17 was working and SS16 lied and said he was working because he wanted zero part in those antics. That was the first time in 5 and half years there was any type of gathering for BMs side of the family for a birthday and I think SD wanted to potential see her toddler cousins. 
 

EDIT: 

I forgot to add too that the skids know SOs job was affected by COVID. He takes home about 1K less a month. They don't know exactly how much less and stuff. So SD brings this up how it isn't fair to dad that mom doesn't help him. I just told her that it's been like that since your parents divorced and it's just the way it is. She said that if dad didn't have you to help that he would probably be really struggling.. I said yes SD he would be. I said when people are together they should help out to balance things out financially and stuff. I said that's what couples do... at least when it comes to me and your dad.