For the ones that have read my previous blogs, you have heard how covert narc SD20 has been trying to get supply from me and was in dire need of supply. She took it to another level a couple of days ago, I will not go into the details, but she filled out a government form, and allegedly mixed her name and mine. So I was listed as the applicant and not just a person in the home. And this whole thing could cost me a lot of money because it is illegal to have false information registered. So she came to our house and told me this. She also asked me if I could fix it (which I had to! again not going into the details here) I did not want to say I will do it, so I was stalling, and she was love-bombing me in front of DH telling me how she did not understand anything and that she was so lucky that I was so smart. And if you do it SM, it will be no problems, because you are so good at understanding such things. etc.  I told her, well, you know you are an independent adult now you can manage such things on your own, you don't really need me. She answered I have nothing together. Just look at my room(which is a smelly mess)and went on to compliment me and talk about how she was not capable. 

Gosh this hurts to write, I had made so much progress, but I started thinking "OMG what if she is so lacking of skills to be an adult and DH and BM has made her into this person that has zero life skills, then maybe she is not such a bad person after all" (kicking my self for that one! The more you doubt yourself, the more abuse they get away with). 

So I ended up saying I will try to fix it in a normal voice (because I had to, again not providing all details), and at that moment, her face made this smirk that went from pleasure to contempt. And my gut told me that she thought, "You have a lower status than me, I am superior, and these tasks are below me." She got narc supply! 
I also felt like the timing of that smirk was so inappropriate as a facial expression in that situation. So my instant reaction after feeling so creeped out was that I have to make it more uncomfortable for her to get help from me than to do it on her own. So I made her sit beside me and fill out the online form as I was giving her directions. The whole time her face had a lack off facial expressions, it was bizarre! 

I just don't get how she could get supply from that? It makes no sense!

I have seen that misplaced smirk before, but that was also before I had realized that she was getting supply from me. It was on an average afternoon we had just finished dinner, and I spotted a stain on the floor, so I bent down and started scrubbing the stain away SD came in, and her face made this smirk again like she got supply from seeing me on the floor washing, which is crazy!