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BM is "Engaged"

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Thu, 09/26/2019 - 7:32am

I am out of town, so DH had to go to OSS's band concert alone last night. 

Apparently BM announced she is getting married and is "engaged".

I say "engaged" in quotes because 2 weeks ago she was in a relationship with a guy we'll call Q. Fiance is not named Q; we'll call him T instead.

DH asked YSS his thoughts. I guess he just shrugged and didn't have much of an opinion.

The last guy she was "engaged" to turned out to be a sex offender who happens to be dating a family friend's ex now (who she dumped her kids for in the last month, BTW).

I don't care that BM is engaged. I care that it may stir drama. Will she move in with this guy and pull the kids out of school (OSS is a senior in an early college program, so that would blow hardcore for him). Does this dude have a job or will she be in even dire financial straits than she is now? Will she get pregnant and look to DH to supplement that (DH laughed at that one)?

I guess I'm putting the cart before the horse. Let's see if she sticks with this one long enough to make it to the altar.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Thu, 09/26/2019 - 8:05am

We live about 30 minutes away on purpose. BM has a history of having "emergencies" and just leaving the kids with whomever she can get in touch with. Or randomly showing up and crying about something.

We could make it work to get him to school for his last year. YSS is in middle school, so he could transfer without *too* much problem.

DH and I have had many, many "what if" conversations and developed many, many contingency plans. This is just potentially one of those instances where, once again, BM just HAD to be the CP but doesn't actually think about how her actions impact her kids (and I'm more referring with that to the door of revolving men and actively cheating on them in front of the boys).

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Submitted by STaround on Thu, 09/26/2019 - 8:19am

you are prepared for change.  I agree, a revolving door of partners in front of kids is not a good idea, for so many reasons.  

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 09/26/2019 - 1:39pm

Well.... I was originally goint to say Halloween, but that seemed so.... obvious!