Glutton for punnishment

I swear I must like being disappointed.

I just priced out flights for Christmas for SSstb14. We know BM won't let us have him. We know that she is going to ignore the email requests. We know it. WHHHYYY do we even bother?? Why can't we just give up like BM wants us to??

Maybe she will come back with a quick "No" and I can add that to the stuff currently being worked out by the lawyers. I doubt it... but maybe. If she says no, and we don't go to SS state for Thanksgiving (not that she has to let us see him), we will go 7 months without seeing him.

For a dad that has fought for visitation since the begining. He pays child support. He paid the 4 years of Alimony. Has a stable carreer in the Navy. Has a wife, a home, his brother lives with us, he has step a brother and sister... WHY won't a judge grant us more??? She is a welfare case living off of disability and CS!! Why does DH only get 34 days a year??? This is so pathetic that we have to grovel to BM for time with the kid.

Now I just want to cry... I must be PMSing... this is the crap I should have already come to terms with.

BM sucks PAS Heartbreak

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Does BM use DH's career

Does BM use DH's career against him? I know military men have a hard time with getting time with their kids, especially when they aren't in the same state.

Not directly. She claims that

Not directly. She claims that SS is shy and that just the 2 of them live together and that is how he is comfortable.

Let me tell you- there is not a shy bone in this kids body! He talks to everyone, gets snapchat thingys from every girl he sees, is all over the place and love all of the things that we do. BM is also a liar becasue she lives with her BF and his 2 kids.

That is such bullshit!! When

That is such bullshit!! When we went through the custody battle, BM was a hot mess. Quit 2 jobs within weeks after getting them, got evicted and moved skids in with a random dude, had SD sleeping in bed with her and dude, would drop skids off on our lawn a day early...the list goes on and on. We even had a Guardian ad Litem involved, who saw all of this happen. Yet it was like pulling teeth to get the GAL to give my SO more custody, because they "really want the BM to have as much custody as possible". Seriously?? She can pull all of this crap, and you still think it's best for skids to be with her 50% of the time? In the end, BM pulled 1 too many stunts so she only has 38% custody, but the GAL acted like she struggled so hard to give BM less than 50%, despite all of this stuff happening.

Why not such a push to have the BD have equal custody? Your DH seems like he can provide a normal life, and unless i'm missing something, no real reason to not give him more custody. Why wouldn't the courts want the BD to have at least 50% custody?? I swear, the courts are such a mess when it comes to custody. It is just baffling.

Sorry you have to deal with that...