Major friggin SD drama
Hi gals. Haven't been around Because work updated computers and now stalk is blocked and I hate typing on my phone so I'm trying talk to text today. Forgive any annoying errors.
So I think you all know that we gave SD a car the end of May. DH says that he has reminded/told her at least 3 × to thank me for the car but of course being the spoiled entitled princess that she is she has not done this yet but that is beside the point
Wednesday DH went to the sporting goods store where SD has been working for the summer. Another beside the point is that she is even here since she still is paying rent for her place in University City and had a job within walking distance of her apartment. The gal that SD is staying with lives right next door to sporting good store and DH noticed that SD car was not there but she was working. So he asked her where the car was she told him that her roommate took the car to do laundry. DH again question her because SD had recently told him that roommate got a new job in a different town and was working 7 to 3. SD told him that roommate got out of work early that day.
After DH left he called me and mentioned that he was annoyed that SD let roommate borrow car. I said unless the roommate has been at BM1s house all day doing laundry SD is lying Because SD car was at BMs when I drove by on my way to work at 8:00 a.m. and was just there again 5 minutes ago when I drove by at 2:45 p.m. ( Yes unfortunately I have to drive past B m's house every day on my way to and from work) Needless to say DH was pissed that SD was letting BM drive the car that we gave her and that SD lied to him not once but twice.
So DH called her at work and asked her Why the h*** she was letting BM who does not even have a driver's license, drive the car that WE gave her, And told her that he was taking the car back. she started her snivellin and fake crying and told him that she couldn't deal with this right now in hung up and him. DH called me to tell me what happened, I told him he probably couldn't just take the car because it's in her name now he said he didn't care he was furious and said he was going to BM's to get the keys. I begged him not to do that because I know that BM is a psycho and her felon baby daddy number 2 is living there as well and is a psycho but DH wasn't having it.
DH got home with the keys about 15 minutes later said that he went to the door and baby daddy answered and DH told him he needed the keys and baby daddy handed them over without incident. Dh original plan was to have me take him back so he could take the car and drive it back to our house I again told him this probably was not a good idea since the vehicle is in her name so he decided he would just go back and throw the keys in the yard and be done with her forever.
So on the way to B m's house the phone rings and it's BM. ladies I kid you not I have never heard such a psychotic crazy ranting in my life as what came out of B m's mouth. Then SD takes the phone and tells DH that she "talked to people at her work and they told her that DH can't do this" .wtf?? How was SD there.???.she was just at work and was supposed to be there until 6!! So we pull up to B M house and BM is in the driveway talking to somebody in a car who was apparently SD, who apparently got a ride of from somebody straight to BMs. DH chucked the keys out the window and BM started screaming like a banshee trying to hide her mouth because apparently she has lost all of her teeth. She made a big show of acting like she was going to call the police and I don't even know what else she said. DH mocked her and I asked her where her teeth were and we Left.
On the way home we deleted SD from D h's contacts and also blocked her number DH said he is done with her. Of course this is happened to some extent before so I don't know how long this will last, But DH seems really serious this time. The fact that when she got caught in a lie she was more concerned about going straight to BMS and getting her precious car then she was about apologizing to DH for the fact that she lied to him for the umteenth time and Hurt the person who has done the most for her, Truly says it all.
Sorry this was so long. Thanks for sticking it out if you did.
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I knew giving her a car was a
I knew giving her a car was a mistake. Many kids ("young adults") don't appreciate the value of a FREE vehicle. This one in particular could have used a lesson in hard work and saving.
Your gorgeous smile must have really made bm selfconcious about her meth mouth. Ew.
Mil had JUST told me Monday
Mil had JUST told me Monday that SD told her that BM lost her teeth. Lmao. So it was perfect timing!!! It was so obvious that BM was trying to hide her mouth with her hand when she was screaming and I couldn't resist the "wheres your teeth comment" I just hope she heard me in between her screeching
Missing Teefs, back of a milk carton!
"HAVE YOU SEEN THESE TEEFS? CALL 1-800-GAG-METH TO REPORT SIGHTINGS"
Oh the fun to be had with this one! Christmas stocking stuffers for BM = mini toothpastes. Jars of baby food. Small, circle bandaids for the meth sores. Toy plastic spiders because if they're toys then they can't be real. Denture glue. Grocery cart & plastic bags for cans. Paper bag to cover face.
And yep she hasn't even had
And yep she hasn't even had the car 2 months... when she wrecks it, get a a ticket, gets it impounded, it breaks down whatever...hope BM is there to help her. Lmao
The beauty of car in SDs name...
...is she can deal with all her own consequences.
To be honest, if he gave her
To be honest, if he gave her the car and it's in her name then your DH should've just ignored it. And taking the keys was a bad idea because the cops can get involved.
I'm glad he is done with her though.
Agree with that. I told DH he
Agree with that. I told DH he really had no right to take the keys or car but he was just blind with rage I guess. Thankfully he came to his senses and gave the keys back.
That was some drama sh*t show
That was some drama sh*t show. Yes, an expensive (whatever value of vehicle is), but hopefully it has been a lesson learned (albeit the hard way).
Maybe he won't be so quick to give her things again or to keep running to bail her buns when she pouts. Going to get the keys then having to double think the action and take keys back, chucking them out the window (what a hoot of a scene that must of been with toothless BM screaming at him).... the lies, the betrayal and lack of appreciation, I mean, how much more of a silly old man is he going to let her make of him?
There does comes a point where even unconditional love comes mighty close to being tested that it finally crosses the line. I found that line with my own oldest daughter. Oh sure, I still love my oldest daughter , but I long ago ceased charging to her rescue and giving her chance after chance. Any relationship with my oldest daughter is now on my terms. Our relationship has changed dramatically, but she just pushed me way to close to the line. A line I didn't even know existed. But she found it.
If this young lady keeps pushing her Daddy , he will find he too has a line. Maybe not this time, maybe not not time, but it's coming. I hope for your Dh's sake, your SD realizes how close she's pushing that line and jumps back from it and can turn things around . Mine never did nor could. It hurts, but it got much easier with time.
Agree with that. I told DH he
Agree with that. I told DH he really had no right to take the keys or car but he was just blind with rage I guess. Thankfully he came to his senses and gave the keys back.
Even if it a car
It still a cheap lesson your DH to learn. Your SD and BM will do what they want, She will Lyle like it’s nothing. Both are playing DH. For there own end
Asked where her teeth were & left
OMG just cracking UP over that!
I wouldn't be able to resist sending Meth BM
https://www.tintoyarcade.com/chattering-teeth-plastic-wind-up.html?langu...
I'm lucky at work because i have a MIFI i can use and connect using my test Windows 10 old laptop.
I hope your DH is finally DONE with SD and here's to hoping he will no longer do the guilty daddy backslide!!!
Haah!! I had just last week
Haah!! I had just last week seen some wackadoodle add in my Facebook feed for the Wish app selling fake?? teeth??! I was like wtf is that and who the heck would buy those and for what purpose??.
I may just be getting the wish app and purchasing those to anonymously send to BM lmao
Amazon Wish List
That is all.
(Humming) "All I Want for Christmas is My Two Front Teeth"
..and this is why we will
..and this is why we will never buy SD14 a car that she can put in her own name. It will be "my other car", and she will be allowed to "borrow" it.
I think giving the SD a car
I think giving the SD a car was a great idea. Now DH can say that he already helped her, she is an adult, time to do things on her own. We gave MSD a car when she was 17 or 18. She assumed that meant we would deal with all its issues. Nope. I am pretty sure she actually learned a lesson, too, because she just bought a car on her own and is free to sell the car we gave her. Our name is not anywhere on that car so we have no ties and no responsiblity. We are done.
Agree. We made sd get her own
Agree. We made sd get her own insurance, registration and car is titled to her. Our names are not involved with it at all. But...because she's an idiot and just had to do everything in NY when she technically lives in VA, she used our address. So the title is sitting at our house. Looks like at some point she's going to need to figure out how to get a new one because I am throwing it in the trash......what title?? Oops sorry must have misplaced it along with my feels!
By throwing it away you are
By throwing it away you are just inviting more interaction with SD. Potential for you DH to cave. I would just mail it to her mother's and be done with it.
Nah, she is blocked from DHs
Nah, she is blocked from DHs phone and her number has been deleted from his contacts. Dont know how she thinks she is going to interact with us.
And I dont really care if she needs it. She wants to tell DH that "he can't take her car because it's in her name and she pays the bills"?? Well I had mail come to my house that I pay the Bills on, for a person who doesn't live here..not my responsibility that it is "lost"
In my state, they just resend
In my state, they just resend the title to the last address on it if she applies for a "lost title." However, she probably won't need it unless she sells it. I think it would be helpful to get it to her somehow but you know she'll just "lose" it anyway when she wants something from DH so it doesn't make any difference if you get it to her or not.
I think it is inviting SD for more interaction, but I don't see any way around that one.
No she can do a change of
No she can do a change of address at the same time she requests a duplicate title and it can go to wherever she is actually living...and again she is an adult, SHE can figure all this out.
That's nice. My state won't
That's nice. My state won't let us do that to prvent fraud. It's a PIA.
Your DH had to know, on some
Your DH had to know, on some level, that she would let BM use that car.
It's just as well that it is in SD's name, otherwise, if something happens, your DH could be a liable party.
Now, he can be completely done and she can be on her own, dealing with her own poor choices.
He did and he told her
He did and he told her numerous times before giving her the car that she was not to let anybody... ESPECIALLY toothless no DL BM, to drive the car. But as ALWAYS SD tells DH what he wants to hear, to get what she wants and then does her own thing anyway.
Yikes, maybe it would benefit
Yikes, maybe it would benefit your husband to get some counseling. I understand that there’s quite a lot of history but to an outsider reading this it looks like he’s stalking and harassing his adult kid.
Huh? Stalking and harassing
Huh? Stalking and harassing his kid?? He told her to stay in Virginia. He's not allowed to go to sporting good store with a friend because she is working there? Roommate literally lives right next to sporting good store, not like you cant notice that car is not there. Normal question to ask is "where is the car" when you see SD at work but not her car. I'm the one who saw car at BM because the latest shit hole she is renting just happens to be on a state highway that I must use to get to and from work unless I want to waste an extra 10 minutes by using back roads.
I dont disagree that DH needs counseling but not for " stalking and harassing his kid" he needs counseling because he has a sociopath for a daughter who does nothing but lie to, manipulate, and use DH as a wallet.