We are headed to SS13's state in 10 days. We will be there for a week for OSS graduation and then packing up and moving OSS18 back to our state. We have been asking BM since FEBRUARY if she will allow us time with SS13. No response. Just straight up nothing. The judge wouldn't discuss it in court. NOTHING. However, BM did make a mistake in court, under oath, stating that she would never deny SS13 time with his father if he would just come to their state. 

Well, on Sunday we texted BM about the flights for our 3 whole weeks that we get him this summer. It is $170 cheaper if he can fly out the day before what the agreement says. BM of course says no. So then we ask about graduation again... Silence. Text again saying that you literally just responded please stop ignoring this!... Silence. So then I tell FDH to call SS. We do, turns our BM just bought him tickets to a MLB game so he can't go to his brother's graduation. WTF!?!?! 

We pry some more info out of him after looking at the schedule, the game is on Friday, graduation is on Sunday. So... why can't you go SS?? He says because the are spending the whole weekend in that town. So then we explain  to the 13yr old that he needs to make a choice here and we hope he knows that family and his brother's graduation is more important than a game. He agrees. So we ask him to put FDH on speaker phone and go talk to his mother so we can do this together. Of course she snatches the phone from his and says that he doesn't need to be involved. 

When it was finally over, BM decided that we can have SS with us in thier state if we give up one week in our state. She has purchased imagine dragon tickets for him and he will miss the concert and "he is so upset and doesn't want to come see us now" so he just HAS to come back early. FHD reminded her of what she said in court. Told her it was ludicris that he give up even a minute in our state because we is traveling there and SHE STATED that she wouldn't deny us time if we came there. Her lawyer even specifically asked FDH about his leave time and wanted to know why all of that can't be spent coming to their state (Ummm... maybe because our lives include more than SS, maybe we want actual vacations, maybe we want time away as a couple, maybe we have 3 other kids to think about, maybe because the Military doesn't just LET you take leave when you want) BM ended the call saying that she is going to let SS think about it and get back to us.  

Well, of course SS didn't. FDH is going to call him tonight because I found out some fun things. If he comes out 4 days earlier than we planned he can see imagine dragons here, also, that means we get 4th of July so we can do fireworks on the beach and stay in the outer banks for a long weekend. We will also propose that if he give us baseball this summer he won't have to miss our wedding, our vacation, can do the concert, fireworks, etc and since it would save us about $400 in airfare we can do a lot more while he is here. I don't know if it will work but since BM bases everthing on what "SS wants" lets give him some things to want!