Court Date and Still Withholding Medical
Well, we got the court date for custody to be established! We are super excited about it. We went back and forth with our lawyer and BM's lawyer over her refusal to give us the name of SS's doctor. They wouldn't give it up. They said that SO had it and they weren't giving it again. We don't have it, we never had it, they couldn't tell us when it was provided. BM's lawyer said that SO was harassing her. So, we stopped all e-mails. We have court in a month and we will just tell the judge- he will make her and we can add this to all of the other examples of her blatant refusal to co-parent- with every question, every attempt to get any information about sports and school and every- everything.
The judge has already told both lawyers that he is "likely going to rule" standard out of state visitation- So we will have SS spring break, majority of the summer, majority of Christmas break and every other Thanksgiving. It will also include liberal time with SO when we are in SS state (which isn't often, maybe 1 week a year, but it is another week we have with him). This had been all SO was asking for since the separation happened 5 years ago. We will decide after this summer if we want to flip custody and go for full. We were told that he needs to spend more than a couple of weeks with us before we go for it.
Alimony is still going strong. He and her attorney are refusing to acknowledge that March is the final month. They won’t send the release letter so we have to have another hearing on that.... It will be amazing to stop paying her 2K a month!!! With the gigantic loss of income and her insistence that she can't work it makes me wonder if she will even be able to afford SS...
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Gross!
2K a month in alimony, in addition to CS??? Oh my! Won't that be awesome to have 2K more a month in YOUR pocket!!! BM is going to go from easy street to sleezy street!! Too funny! *lol*
Actually it will be from $2
Actually it will be from $2,000 down to close to $500. So, still super fantastic!
Much Luck To You
The Girhippo did the same thing. Withheld medical and dental information. Withheld medical insurance information, withheld school information, withheld extracurricular activity info, you name it; it was becoming a running joke every time Chef got on the contact list at school she would make sure it was taken off and we would stop getting information routinely 2 months after school started.
The Girhippo is practically mayor of Podunk New York population 5000 so she knew all the coaches, all the school administrators and teaching staff, all the community center managers and she made sure to trash Chef and me to them at every opportunity so that they would not willingly give any information-- just give us a fight.
BM's town only has about 2000
BM's town only has about 2000 but at this point the school district thinks she is a disgusting human being and gives SO anything he asks for. They even tried to figure out the doctor for us - she didn't list one on his forms at the begining of the year, so the guidance counselor went thru his file looking at doctors notes for the year, unfortunately it was only the orthodontist (which we knew because SO had to pay 80% of the braces she got without consulting him).
Glad to hear
they don't view the BM as MOTY the way they do here in the Girhippo's town!!!
The likely long distance visitation is very similar
to the one that was outlined in our CO. My DW is the CP and the BiodDad the NCP with visitation. My wife moved out of state for university and took the baby with her. He was about 1yo. She had full physical and legal custody and there was no visitation order in place.
The SpermClan had zero to say about it .... until.... the small town grapevine started talking about DW meeting and dating someone. At that point SpermGrandHag filed for custody in the SpermIdiot's name without even telling him about it. My ILs are very low income and the SpermGrandHag thought that she cold intimidate DW into giving the kid up. Nope, she took out a supplemental school loan and hired an attorney and the game was on.
It took nearly a year to actually get them in court, they kept delaying in an attempt to bury DW financially, but when it was said and done the SpermIdiot ended up with standard long distance visitation. In our case the SpermIdiot visitation was 5wks in the summer, ~1Wk in the winter (it alternated between even and odd years but averaged about a week), 1wk at Spring Break and 10 days in the fall in our location. He never took the fall visitation and rarely saw the Skid at all during visitation though the Skid would spend his visitation in SpermLand at SpermGrandHag's house.
We also were allowed 10 days with the Skid in SpermLand during his 5wk summer visitation and though we tried several times to take it the SpermClan would refuse to work with us on it. We did file a few contempt motions on that issue but ultimately on many occasions during our 16+ years under that CO refused visitation for a year or more. We still would smack them in court with the CO when they violated our right to a mid summer visitation session with the Skid but not much ever came from those violations.
I think that this visitation schedule is a good one. It gives the NCP dedicated time with their kid(s), can show the kid(s) how the other half lives, expose them to a quality marriage example that they may not get at their usual place of residence, and can minimize the toxic influence of a manipulative CP on visitation.
Good luck in court.