Recently we have been having trouble with SS15. We have been monitoring the kids texts via an app on their phones. We have caught some crazy things.

First we catch that SS15 is smoking cigarettes. I saw some suspicious texts that led me to believe BM was providing them to him.

Then, bigger fish to fry, pot. I have posted some of that here. Saw a text from Ss15 claiming to have smoked weed with his step dad. So we are then fighting the weed use. During this time, SS15 has gotten more hostile. SO took away all of his electronics saying that if he could not handle not doing these things, he would not provide these things for him. More texts show up about BM providing cigarettes. Nothing solid though.

Then a threat to a kid at school involving guns. Where does it end?

We have a meeting at our counselors with BM, her boyfriend (she has 2 kids by him and another on the way and they live together) and me and SO. The meeting was mostly "don't do drugs SS15, we don't agree with it" Yeah, that was a wasted trip and hour of my life. I don't believe he is doing the pot any more, but he IS still smoking.

Finally got a text that she would replace his "reds" if he wanted her to, his reply was, 'no, I don't want them around home so dad doesn't find out' Please. She smokes too by the way.

All the while, SO is getting more frustrated not knowing what to do. I agree, what to do. For some reason, he did not want to press charges on the weed against her boyfriend. I could not get him to. The fights start between me and SO. I don't want to live with a hostile kid, one that could overpower me easily. I lived with abuse with my ex-dh, I did not want to get into it with him. Especially when he is mentioning using guns on kids.

Then, a little over a week ago, I see 2 conversations that just blow my mind. I normally read the texts before I go to bed. SO was already asleep and had to be at work at 6 am. It was late. (I am currently laid up with a broken foot) The first conversation, I thought was kinda normal. He was trying to talk his girlfriend into sex. I was going to mention it later the next day until I saw that they were planning it for the next day! It was a school day. She was already out of school and visiting her aunt who lives close to us. Aunt was going to be at work the next day. She would be alone.

The other conversation was SS15 asking his mother to pick him up at the bus stop, call the school for him. That is bad enough. The next part, he asked her for a ride to this girls house and for a condom. She agreed. :jawdrop:

I can't believe it. I read it several times to make sure. Yup, BM was going to take her 15 year old son to a girls house to knowingly have sex and provide him with a condom.

I think to myself, no, I won't wake him up for this, but he needs to know SOON.

When he woke up for work, and after his morning ritual, I tell him I need to talk to him about SS15. He was stunned.

We worked quickly and got the girl's mother's phone number. He called her when he got to work. She said that she regularly reads her daughter's texts. She chose to read them that morning. I was surprised that the girl had not deleted them! We got lucky. She takes away the phone from her daughter. SS15 gets all whacked out since he can't get her to reply that morning. Of course she did not go to her Aunt's house. I was watching all morning how he was freaking out.

BM had to many errands to do to even be HOME with the son that she kept home from school for no reason. Oh wait, it was so he could have sex with a, oh I forgot to mention, 13 year old girl.

He even was late "getting off the bus" I knew he would be late. He was freaking since we would find out he was not at school. Hehe, wait till you find out what we know buddy!

Our counselor (former social worker) said, OK, CPS time.

They showed up today, they were called on last Tuesday. We took away all phones from the kids. I checked them. Of course he did delete them. We go to the counselors on Tuesday and he gets all "the house sucks, there is fighting all the time, my dad won't listen to me" He worked it so well, he got to stay with his aunt, SO's sister. He says it is so he is not around my daughters. There are other things but please, because my daughters fight? He talked about how his mom tells him everything, even that SO mentioned aborting him. That was also recently, what good does it do to tell him that now? He also mentioned that he is going to hire a lawyer so he can stay there. Well, hun, I doubt that will happen now.

Come to find out, her other 2 kids are not suppose to be with her either. She has had them the last 2 years while under a no contact order. 3 years ago all of her kids were taken away because of her drug use. She went into a 14 month court approved program where she would get cleaned up. She quit after 12 months. Not real bright is she?

I am guessing they talked to her today after talking to SS15 and SO. They did not talk to me. So now he knows why we have taken away his phone and stuff. All the kids know we can read their texts now, which sucks. We had that ability for less than 6 months and found all this stuff out. It makes me wonder what they did before we put on that program.

After all I have read on this site, I thought we were lucky with our BM. But those days were when she was under supervised visitation. Now I know why it was easy.

I feel sorry for SS15. His mother is about to have the wrath of god come upon her (I hope) Her 2 smaller children will be taken from her. Who knows what will happen with the new one. SD13 will be hurt as well. I do feel for these kids, but I know that this needs to happen. SO is so upset that he started this. That now his kids are going to be hurt by this happening to their mom.

I told him tonight, "what is right is not always popular or easy"

No, it is not.