Okay....here we go....I have been raising my fiances daughter for the last two years, she is now three. I have been in her life more than her own mother because her mother was sent to prison right after she was born and has been in and out of jail since.....Things were going find in the beginning, she has always been VERY smart for her age. She was going back and forth between her mom and dad, getting switched from daycare to daycare because her mother kept changing it for some odd reason, finally the day came my fiance got permanent placement, since that has happened mom went off the deep end and has been in jail since so her 3-yr-old has only talked to her via phone oh maybe once a month for three minute durations and she knows where she it, it's sad, all she talks about on the phone with her is why she's in jail and she'll come and get her out with her keys...just sad! Well once we got permanent placement we started fresh, we moved into a new house, we got her into a well-established daycare, things were GREAT for once in her life! Then a terrible tragedy happens at this new daycare a month in--a preventable accident happens to her where she ends up having to get 10 stitches in her head. She was TERRIFIED to go back so we tried sticking her in other daycares that she liked and was familiar with, same thing. Finally my fiance and I came to the decision I would quit my job and stay home with her. That is when things went DOWN HILL!!!

When I first met her she had no discipline and she was starting to become a well behaved child and my fiance was happy with the changes I had helped her through. NOW it seems like I'm the bad guy all the time. I swear she is a devil child! Her demeanor has completely did a 360 for the worse and I don't know how to handle it anymore. She doesn't listen, she argues with me, she doesn't use manners, I had her potty trained 3 months after meeting her and now at 3 she is wetting her bed and I don't mean a tickle here and a tickle there, I mean full blown wetting, she is wet from head to toe with p*ss, pillows, animals, blankets, EVERYTHING wet, it's disgusting. I was fed up with it, after 6 months of staying home with her I was done.

We just found out a month ago that we are having a little brother or sister and she seemed excited to be a big sister. We got her back in daycare because the stress was too much for me the way it is and now with baby I wasn't taking chances. But even now the few hours I have with her each night I can't handle anymore. Her new thing now is lying to me all the time. I'll pick her up from daycare and EVERY DAY she will tell me, they didn't let me go outside today...(um..well yes they did because A. your mittens are wet and B. your activity sheet says so...) I know it's a little lie but their progressing to get worse...I'll get to that in a bit.

**Mind you** Where's dad in all this?! Good question!!! Not around! Between work and meetings he is gone when we wake up in the morning and gets home after we have been in bed for a couple hours. Only times we see him in on the weekends. And so....since his daughter is a little daddy's girl and he never gets to see her he thinks it's okay to throw all my rules out the window, let her get away with anything, change habits up, never discipline her, you name it.....completely contradicting everything I do each day with her, it's so frustrating. Whenver I try to talk to him about it, his excuse is always, "She's only three....." I say f*ck that, no excuse!! He will allow her to boss him around like a little puppet and when he is around she makes one little wimper and BAM she's got her way!

But the whole reason why I'm telling you my whole life story is because last night was my last straw, her lying gets worse, listen to this...... So, our average day...I take her to daycare at 6:30A, I go home and enjoy myself while she's at daycare, I pick her up at 4:30P, we run some errands, we come home to prepare supper and then bed time. Last night we got home and I had some bills to pay so I went straight to the office where she is not allowed, so she grabs her paper and markers and sits on her table and colors me a picture while I am doing this. After I'm finished with paying the bills I start to create a little notebook cover for her with pictures of family and her name on it, she brings me the picture she colored me and notices what I'm doing so I go through the pictures with her and asks who everyone is, she names them all, as we're doing this...low and behold dad comes home early for once!!! She just goes RUNNING as soon as she hears that door open. I continue doing what I'm doing, I start to listen and here she is BALLING HER EYES OUT to him, she is wrapped around his legs as his walks in the office by me, she folds her knees to her chest and starts rocking back and forth crying telling her father that I told her to go to bed. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Who ever said anything about bed?! So with my hormones and her lying I get up and leave the situation, I was UPSET (angry and sad) I couldn't believe what I just witnessed. So I seclude myself from them in the basement doing laundry and he puts her to bed during this time. He comes downstairs by me and tells me that she told him that I hit her all the time and I pushed her down and that she is scared of me. :jawdrop: What on Earth did I ever do to this child to deserve this, I have been raising her since she was basically a baby and I get this. I swear she is out to get me sometimes. If she's telling her dad these lies what is she telling her teachers, I'm not going to jail because a 3-yr-old wants to lie!

My fiance doesn't think it's a big deal...ah yes it is if they come after me! He didn't even explain to her that it was wrong of her to lie like that or didn't make her apologize or anything. And this morning...guess who took her to daycare, not me..... Right now things are screwed up! My fiance thinks that I am jealous of her and that I resent her, PLEASE! I do nothing but work my *ss off to keep this family afloat and this is how I am treated?! He wouldn't have placement of her right now if it wasn't for me! He wouldn't be able to work all day and go to meetings all night if it wasn't for me! That 3-yr-old little girl would not have ANYONE in her life if it wasn't for me being there 24/7 for her! Why do I get treated like this, again what did I do to deserve this. Where do I go from here?! I mean I quit my job and moved away from all my friends for this?! All I want to do is go back home for a week and I can't even do that because I have my obligations to her and if I try my friance gives me a guilt trip on how he won't be able to work with me gone not caring for her.

I'm at wit's end........what do I do.......?

**UPDATE** Well, he ended up picking her up from daycare after arguing with me...showered and ran off to a meeting. As I sit in the office when they arrive home all I hear out of his daughters little 3-yr-old mouth is negative comments about me, from the time they walk through the door until he left. Here I still sit crying wondering what to do. I can't care for myself let alone someone who speaks about me like that. OH, and dad said nothing to any of the negative things stated. Neither of them came to say Hi or anything. All I get before he leaves is, "are you stable enough to care for my daughter while I'm gone?" WHAT AM I DOING?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Now that dad is gone, I composed myself and went to spend time with SD, every time I would even look at her to speak she would start to cry, this continued, finally I got down on her level and asked what she did at daycare and what she ate, she started crying and ran off into her bedroom and slammed the door. What does a person do now?!