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Getting Sued By BM Again...Just Need Confirmation That There Are Still Decent People In The World!

CrystalRE's picture

DH got served last night...BM is taking us back to court for child support and, get this, is trying to have us ordered to allow her to go on welfare!

DH and I have 60/40 custody of the kids with us being 60%...we do and always have paid for half of everything for the kids. BM decided that she wanted to have several more kids with her new boyfriend and be a stay at home mom and now wants us to pay her support so she can afford to.

This whole thing makes me really feel down about the Step Parent situation...just looking for friendly people who have been in my situation to talk to reassure me that not everyone is bad.

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Oi Vey's picture

I'm confident that not EVERYONE is bad.
However, I'm still waiting to meet one of them. Sad
((Hugs))

PS: Isn't it against the law to go on welfare for kids you don't have primary custody of??

CrystalRE's picture

Joint physical custody is what we have and apparently her lawyer doesn't think so!

CrystalRE's picture

No...all it says is "they enjoy joint physical custody" and spells out the visitation arrangement, which equals out to 60/40 when you do the figures.

CrystalRE's picture

No...all it says is "they enjoy joint physical custody" and spells out the visitation arrangement, which equals out to 60/40 when you do the figures.

MamaBecky's picture

what is a 60/40 schedule? How does that work? Does he have kids 4 days a week and she have 3?

Sounds like BM will be requesting full custody with your DH having visitation, or perhaps true 50/50 alternating weeks. I know in some states if you make significantly less and have 50/50 you can get CS or Welfare.

I dont think your BM would have much chance of getting full custody with your DH having only weekends.....but she would have a good shot at the true 50/50.

What does your lawyer say?

CrystalRE's picture

Yes...she has them three days a week and us four. She is not going for any type of custody changes. Strictly financial support. Our lawyer doesn't say anything because we cant afford one. We are still paying off the $20,000.00 dollar lawyer bill that we got two years ago when she took us to court.

purpledaisies's picture

mommydearestto4 I can not stress enough to anyone to NEVER EVER pay more than is court ordered! Just say NO yep she will make you life hell for a while but in the end she will get it in head that you can't keep paying and she has to support her kids too!

Sorry you are getting sued again but I think that she might not get anymore unless your dh is making more.