My SS isn't allowed to intrude there, he isn't allowed in our bedroom at all unless we give him permission and he hardly ever gets permission. The only reason is to use our shower since the shower in his bathroom doesn't work. We have strict rules about bedrooms though, SS isn't allowed in our daughters room either and when she gets older and starts going places she won't be allowed in his without permission. My DH and I obviously can go anywhere that we need to be but we think bedrooms should be personal space. That doesn't mean that we don't check for contriband or make sure they keep it clean but we are trying to teach them to respect people's privacy.

My fiance and I are currently co-sleeping with our kids. We have a 4 month old daughter together so her crib is set up right next to my bed and our soon-to-be two year old son sleeps in the bed with us. Don't cringe yet! I have a darned good reason for this! lol. The plan when moving into our 3 bedroom home was for our little boy and girl to eventually share a room with my fiance's little boy and girl from his previous marriage. Upon learning what little freaks his kids are, there is NO WAY my kids are sleeping in rooms with them until we have some sort of video surveillance installed, and even still I'm not sure. My fiance's daughter is a psychopath-she's 6. I have had to scrub pee off of her walls. Every mattress we buy for her gets pee'd on to the point of mold. The other day she urinated directly into a gift bag from her birthday and left it there to seep out onto the floor. She has these delusions..claiming that people have tried to stab her in her chest and kill her-the stories always vary, but are equally disturbing. She likes to hurt animals, and people. She laughs when you punish her. So I feel like it would be immoral to put my kids on the opposite side of the house from me at night to fend for themselves when this little psycho is lurking in the dark..because yes she does creep around the house at night to observe people in their beds and steal food out of the kitchen. She even likes to touch me in a sexual manner as much as humanly possible and I have to say: if I catch that kid touching my son or daughter-her and I might have to step outside like grown men! Our bedroom has become sort of a safe haven. It is the only place that I feel my kids are completely safe with me and we get to spend happy time as a family. I would for the kids to sleep in their own rooms as soon as possible though and am looking for ways to fix these problems to make it happen. I am 27, and would LOVE to have privacy with my fiance, but the well-being of my children come first. Any suggestions? I discuss these things with my own friends and family and their only solution is to leave my fiance-that is just wrong!

You are right. But I should have clarified that it was just my fiance and I up until last summer. We bought a house big enough to room all of the children during visits from his step-kids thinking that that would be the extent of their being here, and they were pretty well behaved during their visits, angels practically. When suddenly his two kids were thrown into our laps-our heads were spinning from the sudden change it has taken some time to make sense of what is happening with these kids. In a way I feel invaded by them, because I was here first you know? This is my home, and they were supposed to be living in their home with their mother. I was happy to take in kids that needed help, but these kids are so screwy that I think I need help now lol. Since I began posting in this forum last night, my fiance and I have discussed removing her from our home at least temporarily. I am not sure how yet but we are looking at our options and I am happy that my man is acknowledging the issues with his daughter especially rather than defending her and succumbing to denial like a lot of men do. I am a stay at home mom and watch these kids like a hawk. I also keep them separated as much as possible without making it to obvious to the kids what I am doing so it is a temporary patch on the situation. I just cannot believe that there are not more options for parents like us with kids like these. They should be rehabilitated as early as possible, they are going to be members of our adult society one day!

BM and FH coslept with SD7 the entire time they were together. when things took a turn for the worst in their marriage BM started sleeping in SD's bed with her leaving my FH alone. he says it was her excuse not to be intimate as she was witholding sex for the last few months of their marriage. after they split and FH and i got together when SD was 3, she was so used to cosleeping with her parents that FH didn't want to attempt to break her of it just yet. she kept on with this habit (which in my opinion gets harder and harder to break the longer you let it go on) until she was almost 6 years old. BM had built onto their little house to add a room on for SD and had her start sleeping in there. i used the opportunity to speak with BM myself and tell her that FH and i only have a full size bed where we live and SD at almost 6 was getting big! she would take up so much room that i was getting edged out of my own bed almost every night and spent a few nights on the floor!!! i told BM that since she was starting to sleep on her own at home, could she maybe talk to her about sleeping on her own with us too? she had the talk and ever since SD has either been sleeping with FH's grandma (we live with her and hers is the only other bed in the house) where there's much more room, or camping out on the floor with her sleeping bag and lots of padding, with our dog. most times she asks to sleep with the dog lol.