I have been wandering on this site a while and I finally created a account. I tried to make myself feel better by reading the horror stories of others, sick I know. But that is my life now. I am just so miserable because of my SS. He is 14 and I have been with his father for 2 years. He has been divorced 3 years. I have my own daughter who is 10 and we have a son together who is a year old. The Bm in my situation had custody of SS but the day before our honeymoon she dumps SS on us and goes to Mexico with her boyfriend, or she says. We have not heard from her since other than a randome phone call twice a year. She is such a skank. I was not happy when that happened. I did not expect to be looking after SS when I got married.

Let me just say SS changed overnight, a few weeks after our wedding. We thought he would outgrow it but it only got worse. He is a smart kid and has many friends. But we also found out he drinks and goes to parties he shouldnt be at. We also found out he has had sex with at least 15 girls, that we know of. We only found out through an incident at school because someone posted a list of the girls who were not virgins anymore and which guy had slept with them. It was disgusting. The list ended up online and I have a friend who saw the list and told me SS's name appeared at least 15 times.

We tried grounding, taking away priviliges. Nothing works. It does not help that everyone at school thinks he's cool for what he did. I am sure if SS was a girl everyone would react differently. My daughter told me after the list was exposed that SS had taken girls into his room when my mother-in-law babysits them. My mother-in-law often sleeps while she is supposed to look after them. But we cannot really afford a babysitter. This kid has some balls. He was sleeping with girls while his grandmom was home. It made me very angry that he was exposing my children to this filth.

But nothing helps. All we do now is educate SS on safe sex. My husband even buys him condoms :sick: . It makes me want to throw up. But I do not want a grandbaby before I turn 40. SS thinks he is amazing because he gets good grades, good at football and is good looking. But his attitude is vomit inducing. There are many other issues with SS. But this was a big one I wanted advice on. He is only 14. I am hearing rumors that SS slept with a older woman. I overheard his friends saying he was the man for "banging a milf" :sick: . That would be a criminal case. Of course, we have no proof. We went to a counselor but SS did not talk to him. Instead, he tried manipulating the counselor. Luckily the counselor was smart enough to see through his lies.

The counselor asked us if SS was ever abused and my husband could not say no for certain. His ex used to bring guys over to the house and sleep with them when my husband was at work. Some of these men were conviced felons, and she still got custody! My husband only found out because he got the syph. Yes, that is the kind of woman Bm is. The counselor said the another possible reason could be that SS is struggling with abandoment issues. He never talks about his mom so we do not know how he feels about her. But SS cannot be helped unless he wants to be helped. We could not afford to keep sending SS to counseling for him to just sit there.

How do you handle a out of control teen? He is making my homelife miserable. And our marriage is suffering. We are always fighting. His birthday is coming up and I feel he should not get anything as punishment, not even a cake. My husband said he supports that idea. But is it too harsh? I need help