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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Mon, 08/01/2011 - 11:43am

Hi everyone. After my SS has gone to my in-laws, my MIL has said she will not watch our kids anymore. So now to afford child care, we have to cancel our internet at home. I guess we should say we are not reneweing the contract. I just wanted to thank everyone for all their help. Hopefully our financial situation improves soon and I will be back. But I wanted to say goodbye to everyone here. I wish you all the best. I wish I had joined earlier Sad

SS told my husband he is not his father anymore

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 8:42am

My husband went to see SS at his parent's house. SS yelled at my husband saying he was just like his mother. That he wish he had never been born to them. And he told him to never talk to him ever again. And that he was going to go become a "gay hooker" since my husband thinks of him as one anyway. My husband slapped him and came home. He went into the bathroom and cried. I feel terrible but I do not want such a toxic person around my children. My M-IL called and said my husband was wrong for slapping SS. And she said she does not need our 50 dollars a month for keeping SS.

My husband came back without SS

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Fri, 07/22/2011 - 7:34am

My husband returned home from his parents. And left SS there. They were gone for two days. He looked very upset and has not talked to me much. I feel bad because I made SS move out. But I have to think about our kids too. Just because BM gave SS so many issues does not mean I have to suffer for it. My husband said he yelled at SS and said many hurtful things he did not mean to say. He said he made SS cry. And that SS told him to come back here and he'll stay with his grandparents. When I heard this I felt REALLY bad.

SS had to go to the hospital, and I am making them move out

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 7:23am

My husband had to take SS to the hospital because he was dehydrated. He did not even drink water because he wanted to prove something. We heard him puking quite badly so off to the hospital they went. I was terrified. What if the people inn the hospital think we did it purposely and charge us with child abuse? Luckily, they put SS on some drip for a few hours and set him back home. Of course my husband feels badly and was hand feeding SS oranges. SS mananged to totally manipulate the situation. I told my husband he has to leave with SS and go live with his parents.

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Tue, 07/19/2011 - 7:44am

I convinced my husband the bars on the window was a bad idea. But we have locked the window. My husband tried to go and talk to SS but SS tried to make a run for it. So its back to being locked up in his room. We heard him crying in his room in the night and my husband wanted to let him out because he felt bad. I told my husband I would support him with whatever he decides. The thing about my husband is that he does try disciplining SS. But nothing works. He has tried everything under the sun apart from physically hitting him.

I gave my husband the ultimatum

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 8:00am

I told my husband either SS goes to military school or I leave with my children. He is exposing them to sex, drugs and alcohol and I do not want to lose my children. What I was not expecting was my husband to break down crying. I was taken aback. He says he cannot abandon his son like BM did. I was feeling for him but I had my own children to think about. So I kept firm although it was difficult for me.

Does military school work?

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Tue, 07/12/2011 - 12:29pm

I was looking at suggestions on my previous blog from lucky91 I believe. She suggested military school. I love the idea except for the cost. We CANNOT afford military school right now. We are struggling as it is. But I was looking online and the one near us does have scholarships as another poster said there would be. I have no doubt in my mind that SS will get this scholarship. He is a grade topper and is one of the best players in the football team.

I want SS to leave but where would he go?

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Tue, 07/12/2011 - 10:44am

I need SS to leave my house. I cannot handle him anymore. He is exposing my children to pot and alcohol. And let's not forget the underage sex. But where would we send him. His mother has gone off with her convict boyfriend to Mexico (so she says). My in-laws will not take SS even though they like him. We are stuck with him. I love my husband with all my heart but I will divorce him if I have to. I cannot believe I am letting SS break our family apart. I want to just beat up that little snot nosed punk.

SS's birthday, what a great start (not)

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Fri, 07/08/2011 - 7:53am

SS did not come out the whole day, not even to eat. He disappeared again last night. Then, around 12 midnight (we think), he snuck out. He comes back in at 6 am this morning. He was drunk. Are you kidding me?? Thank god my kids were asleep. My husband asks him where he has been. You know what SS says? "just been whoring around again". And then the next second he starts crying and locks himself in his room. My husband tried getting him to come out and he would not. We wanted to remove the door.

Crap, was my husband too harsh?

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Thu, 07/07/2011 - 9:55am

We found out SS as been smoking pot in the house. The house where I have a one year old and a ten year old daughter. This made my husband absolutely angry and he started yealling at SS. It was more like screaming at him. This was the worst I have ever seen my husband yell at SS. He starts chewing SS out for everything he is doing that is so wrong. But then my husband said "Fine, go be a whore like your mother, sleeping with everything she could find". This made SS snap. He did not say anything but he was mad. He looked pretty hurt as well. He got on his bike and left the house.

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