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SS had to go to the hospital, and I am making them move out

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Submitted by upsetAllTheTime on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 7:23am

My husband had to take SS to the hospital because he was dehydrated. He did not even drink water because he wanted to prove something. We heard him puking quite badly so off to the hospital they went. I was terrified. What if the people inn the hospital think we did it purposely and charge us with child abuse? Luckily, they put SS on some drip for a few hours and set him back home. Of course my husband feels badly and was hand feeding SS oranges. SS mananged to totally manipulate the situation. I told my husband he has to leave with SS and go live with his parents. I told him he can come visit but SS will NOT be in my house. My husband has tried disciplining SS right at the start but nothing has helped. So I feel bad for punishing my husbad when he truly did try to make SS behave better. SS has a lot of issues because of his mother abandoning him but why should I suffer because of her horrible choices? Am I being too harsh with this? I feel like I have no choice other than these extremes.

p.s. thanks to everyone who posted on my previous blog. I was not able to reply to your comments because the site would not let me.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 7:53am

You are not punishing your DH. Your DH is simply experiencing the consequences & results of his & BM's previous lack of parenting. Every choice, good or bad, comes with consequences. You can't be lax when it comes to raising children & then when you realize things are out of control expect them just to fall into line.

You are NOT being too harsh. You need to protect yourself & your children. As a mother, the safety of YOUR children NEEDS to be your focus.

As I posted in your previous blog, if your SS wants to behave like a criminal, let him feel life as a criminal. I would recommend your DH put his son in juvie. Let him feel the repercussions as a minor & carry those lessons into adulthood. He won't like juvie, but prison would be worse.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 9:16am

I realize he can't just show up & have him admitted, but if the kid is smoking pot, & drinking as a minor, that warrants the police getting involved, which will initiate a court hearing.

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Submitted by stormabruin on Wed, 07/20/2011 - 10:24am

YES! And when court rolls around, your DH needs to not bail him out. He needs to let the system have their way with this kid NOW. Let him learn the whole lesson. Let him feel the consequences of his choices!