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Submitted by briarmommy on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 10:21am

I am so mad right now. My ss7 had the day of school today so my husband volinteered to go get him last night and keep him today, even though he won't be home he will be at work. When I asked him about it he said he would get to see him a few hrs this morning since he doesnt go to work till 2:30 and a few hrs last night. OK fine but he hasn't spent anytime with him, last night he worked on his new computer and this morning he has just layed around and watched tv. So what was the point of getting him early? Its bad enough he switched weekends to begin with so now this is the second weekend in a row and for a whole day of it I stuck alone with him with him being even MORE disrepectful then he is when my husband is here if that is even possiable..............Sorry I just needed to vent, he didn't even talk to me before he agreed to switch weekends or to take an extra day when it is just me home alone with him. What if I had plans, me and my bd10months go places to my moms or sometimes since I don't have a car my friends come over to visit with me and bd10months. They can't visit when he is here because he is an attention hog even though he has a whole other family then here and my friends are here to see her( my best friends are auntie or uncle respectivly they are more like siblings then friends) This is already starting to be a horriable weekend .............is is Sunday night yet?

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Submitted by starfish on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 10:26am

i would be raging mad if i were you!! shortly after dh & i got married he added an EXTRA eow day to skid visitation, that was about 7 yrs ago and i am still pissed about it....

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Submitted by briarmommy on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 10:58am

They don't get it, its not even just the extra day its that they don't even talk to you about it.

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Submitted by hismineandours on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 11:26am

I dont think men get it alot of times. I still remember early in our relationship-dh had custody of ss at the time and he was with us full time except eowe. He was probably about 4. I also had my own 4 year old and a 3 year old. BM called on Thursday evening and asked if it was ok to pick up ss sometime on Saturday instead of Friday evening because she had some errands to run on Friday afternoon and wanted to go to the grocery store. He said sure.

I freaked out! He had a guard drill and was leaving Fri at 7am and would be gone all weekend. He had just agreed taht I would be ok with ss's pick up "sometime" on Saturday without even consulting me!! I told him that maybe I wanted to go to the freaking grocery store and did he realize how hard that was with 3 kids age 4 and under!!! He seemed shocked at my reaction. But to his credit he called her back and told her that we needed to stick to Friday evening. And he's never done it again.

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Submitted by briarmommy on Fri, 03/25/2011 - 12:30pm

Thank you for your input, I think your right they just don't get it. After I got of here earlier I tried to talk to him and he got all up in arms like "sorry I had the nerve to have a child before I met you" I didn't even say anything bad just that I would like some input. Its nice that your husband understood though, maybe mine will eventually I tried turning it around and telling him how would he feel if I had a kid before I met him and expected him to just watch that child without even asking and I think he did understand it more that way.