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I am torn on what to do?!

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Submitted by vgill on Wed, 12/02/2009 - 7:48pm

I don't want them to live with me, I love them, but I don't want them here. I don't know why, SS12 is actually behaving now, but I fear this is just the calm before the storm. SS14 makes me want to tear my hair out, he has been living with BM for almost a year now, and I don't feel he is ready to come hme yet, not untill he can respect Dh and I, and the other children in this house. I have 4 other children to consider I love "all" of my children, but I sometimes need a break from all of them. But mostly I just need a break from my SS's. I jsut feel like I don't want to deal with their daily drama and disrespect, but I feel guilty about feeling this way, I don't want to hurt DH, but I don't want his kids around for a little while, I feel my kids need me right now. I just feel pulled between my kids and dealing with skids and always trying to please everybody else, Maybe it's wrong but I want things my way for awhile.

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Pantera's picture

Submitted by Pantera on Thu, 12/03/2009 - 8:33am

I respect you for being honest. You have to look out for you and your children. You aren't going to be able to fake your feelings if they live with you. Children can sense those feelings. I know you don't want to hurt DH, but you need to tell him that you need a break.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

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Submitted by livinthedream on Thu, 12/03/2009 - 5:26pm

In the Step Parents Bill of Rights...one of the rights says that we must be consulted B4 anyone moves in. I feel the same way...2 weekend visitations a month is more than enuf. Id prefer NEVER!