I have not posted about BF's ex, the BM because I don't normally think about her. BF and I use to talk about her a lot, his venting and asking advice. She is not a problem for me, other than what she does to her kids. She does not even really cause problems for BF, other than being needy every once in a while.

BM is an addict. Like an entry from others before, this causes all kinds of trouble. She has caused all kinds of issues for the kids. BF has told me about when they were married, she took pain pills and drank a lot. He would have to come home from an 18 hour shift, feed his kids and do the dishes because she had done nothing all day long.

She refused to clean up a lice situation, she kept calling BF about having him delouse her hair. She had a boy friend and a family, it is not like there was not anyone else. BF's kids had lice for 2 years. BF would buzz his hair and SS12, but poor SD10 had to suffer through treatment after treatment. We had to come up with non-toxic treatments that we could use closer together than 2 weeks.

Finally, BF took SD10 to the doctor and he gave him 2 bottles of a new lice treatment, 1 for SD10 and one for BM!!! I was the one who picked them up! I did the treatment! WE finally got rid of the lice!!!

More recently, BM had another baby by her boyfriend, this makes 2 in 2 years. This daughter was tested for drugs even before BM got to see her after the birth. The baby tested positive. I do not know WHAT she tested positive for. The father's family had it done. Well, since then, BM has lost custody temporarily of all 4 of her children. She has supervised visits only as well as supervised phone calls. It has been this way since April.

Recently, BF got a letter stating that BM would be getting unsupervised visits and phone calls and he is very upset about it. He wants custody. I cannot get it through his brain that CPS is out to get his kids and BM reunited.

During the time that BF has had custody, BM has seen her kids only briefly, less than once a week, and only for a few hours. She gets upset that the kids don't call her, she hardly makes an effort to call them.

SD10 gets so upset after they see her. She is so happy to spend time with her mom that when she gets home, she is very sad that she can't stay with her.

My heart really does go out to these kids. They have no stability. The counselor has told me that she is so happy I am there for them both. Especially SS12. I do hope to be a positive aspect of their life as well as for my kids.

Sometimes, it is hard to remember they are going through this STILL. I don't see spoiling them though to make up for it though. Be sensitive yes, but sleeping with SD10, no.

Well, there is the story... any questions?