I cut and pasted this from another forum to give you ladies some back story. This is regarding the loveletters from prisonand how that all wound up going down.

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So Grandma appaerently had read the letter BM sent DH and called us yesterday
evening to see "what he thought about it". DH was calm but honest. He told her
that BM's priorities were still out of wack and she was focusing on the failed
relationship more than what she needs to do for the girls. He also told her that
BM was out of line and being very disrespectful to me and to the fact he has a
family. Grandma did not deny the fact that BM is still hung up.

GM wanted to know if we were going to let her visit the girls. DH had to tell her
he still had a bad taste in his mouth from the stunt that she pulled. The stunt
being letting the girls talk on the phone to BM from prison when we told her out
right not to and then telling the girls to LIE to ua about it. DH explained to GM
that the situation is more serious than she realizes and the girls do not EVER
need to feel like they should lie about their mother in order to see her
considering how unstable she is. It could be very dangerous.

GM didn't like it but she didn't have too much to say considering J was
absolutely right in everything he said. DH hung up and we thought that was that.
We had decided not to send BM a letter back and just let GM pass the word and BM
will get the message. DH is avoiding contact.

At about 10 o'clock the phone rang with a number I was unfamiliar with. It was
BM's sister who I have never met who lives in Orlando. She asked rather rudely
to speak to DH and I had to ask who it was. She told me and I knew immediatly. DH
was putting Layla down (for the third time) so I asked if shhe cold call
backashe said no she needed to talk to him NOW reaklly nasty like. AT that point
I told her he could not drop what he was doing so she went off on ME.

She told me we had better stop upsetting her mother and I had no business being
involved in any of this because the girls arn't mine. She said BM carried those
babies for DH and she should have the right to talk to and see them. She brought
up the fact that DH was on the road alot and did some drugs himself. The rest of
it was just shouting out profanities and telling me I don't nkow shit.

My replies to all this was no one was trying to upset her mother and if they
wanted to be upset with anyone they need to call her POS sister. As far as being
my business I am RAISING these girls because your dumb ass sister is so F-ed up
she can't be trusted with the kids. I also told her it was more my business than
hers or her mothers becaue I was suppoeting them financially and emotionally and
they don't even know who she is! They have no idea who aunt_______ is. This is
the first time in three years she has shown any interest at all and that's just
because her mom and sister got told no. I also said just becasue she carried
them and squirted them out doesn't give her the right to endangear them and
expose them to dangerous situations. That being a mom doesn't giver her a free
pass to F*ck up her kids. I also told her state takes children away form unfit
mothers everyday and the rights of a parent is just as illusion. It's more of a
priveledge than a right and the priveledge CAN be taken away if the parent is
unfit. I told her all of the women in her family nne to move on from the past
because all that matters is BM is the one who is on all kinds of drugs and who
is ib prison. What happenes five years ago does not amount to a hill of beans.
As far as her saying i don't know sh*t I tolld her SHE doesn't know sh*t because
while we have been in the middle of it seeing it all go down her big fat ass has
been five hours away in Orlando completely oblivious except for what BM adn GM tells
her!

She wound up hanging up and me and then called back seconds later yelling "tell
your punk ass boyfriend to call me bitch!" and hung up. This is my cell phone
number GM has given to this nutcase mind you...not DH's. I sent a text telling
her the phone number would be changed because of her audacity. The phone was MY
phone and she stepped over the line. I also said tell your mother to thank you
for her loss of phone contact.

Seconds later I got a reply that stated I ain't telling her nothing and I
suggest you had better stop harrassing her before your home wrecking ass gets
into real trouble. I see DH isn't going to be man enough to call me back. You
tell him I said he will reap what he sowes and vengeance is mines says the
LORD!!! (why is it that wack jobs always wax religious when they have an
episode???? Nutcase-ism obviously runs in the family)

I sent a text back saying I am not a home wrecker...the hone was way wrecked
before I even KNEW DH. No one is harrassing your mother and I suggest you stop
sending threats via text becasue these are going straight to our lawyer.

That was the last of it.

I'm thinkiong about changing my number saturday and no one on BM's side of the family is getting
it. I'm tired of the bullshit.