My SS BM fought in court for 3 years to win custodys of her son, it was every 3 days my SS would go back and forth from BM to DH and DH had to pay 150 a week in CS even thought it was split custody, split placement, well BM moved 6 times in 2 years and moved SS daycare 9 times in 2 years and on the 9th move DH took her back to court for placement because he was sick of seeing his 4 year old son at the time moving from home to home and daycare to daycare. Well BM told the judge she is never going to move and that is why she should have custody because she lives in the district where SS attended Headstart, which BM did all on her own with out DH knowing, she signed him up and and DH about it later, they went to court for that because in Headstart they have to go 5 days a week and be potty trainned well BM lied and said he was, but he had 10 accidents in the first 3 weeks of school, but Headstart never did a thing about his accidents because they loved him there and felt bad for him having to move again, he was a late potty trained kid. I wondering if moving all over and emotional shit he took from BM had anything to do with that?? DUH!! Anyway, once headstart said SS could stay and will not be asked to leave DH jumped right in and attended all meetings and school events, he just did not want his son changed to a 10th daycare, when SS was with us he went to his aunt's house. SO to bring you up to date, not even 6 months after DH won placement BM is moving an hour away from where we live now and her son's school. She is going to work about 40 minutes away from the school but her apartment which is a one BR is an hour from where we live and 20min. from her work. What I can not understand is how she can move away from her son, who she fought so hard for, she is moving to a town an hour away from her son and 50 minutes away from her family, she is taking a job that pays a dollar less an hour and has less hours in her work week, so what is she thinking?? She went into support court crying saying she can not pay CS and live, she has to pay 150 every 2 weeks and sees her son 5 days out of the month, we had to pay 150 every week and it was split placement, she said she sold her furniature and is filing for bankrupse(sp?) even the judge told her that her bills were not bad enough to ruin her credit over, but she said she is saving money for a lawyer to file. She is moving into an apartment that cost 400 a month to save money because all is included, but what about the cost of gas it is 2.79 where we live and she is going to be driving a lot more now because she has to do all the transportation of her son because she is the one moving. I just do not understand why she did not move in with a family member for help, or an apartment in our town which is just as cheap as where she is moving? Does she not realize that moving an hour away will put more distance between her and her son? She hates me and does not want me to be "mommy" but she is forcing that on me by moving I am the one who is there for him, I tuck him in at night I make his bed, I cook for him and bathe him and love him and hug him am I not the Mom here??? I could respect her decision to move more if she were moving with family due to money issues, like her buying 3 cars in 2 years and now that my DH does not pay her 600 a month she can not afford to live, well get over yourself, in my eyes she is single, how much can a child cost that lives with you 5 days out of the month?? She goes out to an event that her and her son like to do and she claims she goes with her son because he likes it, well then she should save money and only go when she has him or HELLO get a second job, working 35 hours a week she has plenty of time for another job to be able to do fun stuff with her son, so stop blaming others and get yourself together, she is 30 not 20 and should be able to at least support herself!! Thanks for listening, I appreciate comments.