“And then what?”

This was the question that DH heard over and over again last night in our therapy session. While there was a lot to cover between the fallout from The List of Doom (TLOD) and the discussion about me moving out, we decided to start with ASS and his reaction to TLOD. Therapist asked how ASS was doing with TLOD. DH handed her a copy of TLOD – the one with ASS’s “eat a dick” connotations. Therapist just looked at it and said, “hmmm. So you gave him what he wanted and it still wasn’t enough.”

My daughter is about to turn 25 and is married. She never lived in the house with the skids, as she was already in her own apartment at school by the time DH got custody of the skids.

She is aware of the ASS situation and the difficulty that is transpiring in my house right now. She was sending me links to apartments - lol!!

My kids have had a SM for about 15 years now and I NEVER tolerated any negative comments about her. Always told my kids that she was dad's wife and I was raising them better than to be obnoxious to ANY adult.

So, last night, DH handed ASS The List and told him there would be no debates or discussions about it. At the top of the list is "ASS must apologize to WOB for the CPS incident and the shoving/pushing incident."

When he came out of ASS's room, he told me that he had given him the list. I smiled and said, "oh. That's nice."

Had a long talk with DH last night - told him that I really needed things to change, that I am sick and tired of tip toeing around an asshole skid, that something's gotta give.

He said, "maybe it's time for you to get that apartment. I have to finish raising these kids."

Oh, okay then.

Who has successfully maintained two households and NOT ended up divorced? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?