Dh is in bed very sick! I haven't touched him in over a year, but I sure would love to some times, Dh did get up fevered,caughing and throwing up and told him to smarten up. SS12 knows that dad is very sick and he has been a holy terror the last 8 days, Dh has been in the hospital and has bleeding stomach ulcers and they are worried about his blood pressure, he is being treated with stress meds, and the biggest stress in his life are his kids! Even the Dr noticed the other day when we were in her office and SS12 called on the phone, Dh was dealing with him and the Dr. said that is what is causing the stress, she thought is was someone we are dealing with with our business, then he told her it was his son, she said that he needs to deal with the situation soon because if his stress related health continues to go the way it has been he will end up having a heart attack!! DH is just exhausted trying to deal with these kids, althought the good news is that BM is getting much better to deal with!!

I tell him to get up that's it, I never make his lunch anymore but I did today so he wouldn't be late. HE has an alarm clock but won't get up when it goes off anyway, got that for him 2 years ago! It is too far for him to walk to school (25 miles) so I can't even make him walk if he misses the bus! We both work so we can't leave him home alone or he would just sit and watch T.V all day, then he would miss the bus everyday! I don't do his laundy I don't clean his room, I don't even set a plate at the table for him anymore as he always tells me how supper sucks and he won't eat that garbage!!! he wont eat anything unless it's junk food, I have even stopped bringing groceries home because he'll just sit and eat Icecream and stuff before we get home, I just bring home what we are having for supper. Sometimes I find myself thinging of new ways to do things that don't include him. Even Dh and I have started staying at work longer with the other children so we don't have to go home and deal with this kid, in fact DH starts getting ill on his way home because of what this kid is going to start when he gets there. I mean we close the shop at 6 and we haven't been getting home untill after 8 and it's only a 20 min drive, we have even been doing some visiting after we close so we can do it without him as he will throw tantrums even at someoone else's house very embarrasing, we usually end up having to leave to deal with him! I have tried tuning him out but I am only human and there is only soo much I can take!

thanks, I have been getting him up because I am getting 3 other kids up and ready for school but they are between the ages of 5-9, but I will tell him tonight to set his own alarm from now on,then once the rest of the kids are on the school bus I am going for a walk, I have needed to lose the baby weight anyway. the only problem may be that Dh and I will be driving him to school everyday when he misses the bus and he would prefer to stay home and watch tv all day, he doesn't even care if he fails, he is the laziest kid I have ever met,I no longer do his laundry and last week he wore the same pair of jeans all week and he wore them again today, he doesn't care. i have to pick him up tonight from an after school program, Dh is going to watch the other 4 kids (they'll be sleeping) he is really quite sick and he worked all day. yes SS!@ is his responsability but I help dh out because I love DH!