Let me start this by saying HATE is a strong word that I don't like to use. My 12 yr old SS has been living with me for four yrs now. Let's see it started off on the weekends when BM claimed she didn't have anyone to watch him. When i met DH he use to pick son up from school everyday and keep him until she got off work. Once she found out he was in a relationship it turned to every f'ing chance she got she threw him om DH.
I couldn't even have a honeymoon because he hurt his leg and DH had to run to the hospital. At this point i don't know who the hell to blame for the way this kid acts. DH doesn't spend time with him and thinks I'm suppose to. BM doesn't want to be bothered because he disrespects her and he doesn't get along with her new husband. She gets him one day on the weekend when she feels like it and basically runs the show. If he is suppose to stay fro 5 days and whines that he wants to come back she has no problem bring him back. He is with us all yr and she won't even get him for the summer. Her excuse is always I have to work.
SS will be 13 this month he shouldn't need a f'ing babysitter. He throws tantrums where he breaks up shit, curses people out, fights, and then huffs and puffs like he is going to tear the house down. I had to tussle with him one day and I was tired as hell. He is about 5'3 and 160 pounds at minimum. I am just tired of his BS, and especially because I have went above and beyond for this ungrestful bastard. I have done therapy,medication, talking, love all the crap and a bag of chips. I am to the point of frustrstion and I don't know what to do. DH is in major denail that his son is a f'ing delinquent. He is a terrible example for my other 3 children. Oh I forgot to mention them a long time ago.
Please i need advice and I shall continue with this tomorrow> I have a headache from just thinking about this shit