...he thinks my disengaging is making things worse with sd20. I asked him how. He says, "Because neither of you are talking about the problems." I said, "I told her my issues and what I expected. I told her that when she decided to grow up and be more respectful, she would be welcome in my home and around myself and my kids again. She knows." Then he said, "I'm tired of being stuck in the middle."

SS22 was living with us up until about 3 weeks ago. DH had told him that I was going to be setting up some rules so for him to be prepared... needless to say, he left and never came back. (rules included $100 per month rent, $25 per week for food if he ate here, must maintain a job and could only change jobs if it was for more money or better benefits, must be respectful to everyone in the home, etc) SS22 didn't even bother to wait and find out what the rules were. He heard "RULES" and he bailed! SHOCK right? (A little background... SS22 moved in here I don't even remember how long ago.