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Money makes the world go around?

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Submitted by Storm76 on Thu, 10/08/2009 - 8:36am

As someone that got into debt and pulled herself out (18 months now without a debt to my name bar the student loan!) I can be quite touchy about money, especially the amount that my OH can spend on his son.

Reading some of the blogs & forum posts on here it's clear to me that money can often be an issue in blended families - some kids may have more material things than others, arguments over paying out of joint accounts for big items for skids etc.

Good points about being a stepmum

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Submitted by Storm76 on Wed, 10/07/2009 - 9:14am

Chatting to my OH last night he mentioned that he went to his 2nd choice university cos his grades weren't high enough, and if he had his life would be completely different as he would have moved to another city, never have met BM or me.

I realised that much as I never set out to be with someone who had a child already, without his son he wouldn't be the man he is today, and so would I have met him and if so, fallen in love with him?

So, here's my list of the good points of being a stepmum:

Only Child vs Big Family

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Submitted by Storm76 on Tue, 10/06/2009 - 6:08am

We had SS for a couple of hours last night & had to go through the usual rigmarole of what he would & wouldn't eat (sigh)

Anyway, my OH ended up making him a sandwich as he'd had a main meal at school using 3 different types of cold meat, cheese, sauce etc. I watched him eat it thinking back to my childhood when it was 1 slice of meat per person in a sandwich, mainly because being one of 4 kids money was tight.

Weekend with SS

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Submitted by Storm76 on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 5:53am

Well, have just finished a whole weekend with SS staying with us, and generally went OK, apart from a few little annoyances...

It's his 10th birthday in a couple of weeks, and BM has arranged his birthday party for a weekend we're supposed to have him (to include a sleepover at her house). She also told him that both his dad & I would be coming along in the afternoon when they go bowling, without asking either of us!

Glad to be a woman

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Submitted by Storm76 on Fri, 10/02/2009 - 3:17am

I was out with some friends last night & we were discussing how there's a big bunch of pregnancies in our circle at the moment, and me & a friend who've never had our own kids were chatting about the society pressure that every woman 'should' be maternal.

Stepmother's Bill of Rights

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Submitted by Storm76 on Thu, 10/01/2009 - 10:56am

I found a list of 10 points earlier today on Wednesday Martin's website:

Apparently it was first posted on the internet anonymously a few years back & it definitely got me thinking

A STEPMOTHER’S BILL OF RIGHTS
1. Our marriage is our first priority, and we will address all issues together.
2. I will be part of the decision-making process in my marriage and family at all times.
3. People outside the immediate family - including ex-wives, in-laws and adult children - cannot make plans that affect my life without my consent.

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Submitted by Storm76 on Thu, 10/01/2009 - 9:09am

Right, hello anyone that's reading. Smile I decided a blog would be a good way to get some of my frustrations, ponderings & thoughts about semi-step-mothering out there.

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