I know it sounds bad but when someone asks me how many kids I have, I say "one." My husband and I have one 5 yr old son together and he has three kids from his previous marriage. I recently met this woman and when I asked her how many kids she had, she said "4." Later on, she told me she has 2 of her own kids and 2 stepkids. I felt instant guilt that I don't say "4." Does this happen to anyone else? I guess I need to question the bond I have (or don't have) with them.