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SteppedOff's picture

After reading this article it caused me to think about situations we read about too often here. Different scenarios in step families that let's face it are abuse. It is allowed to continue and looked the other way by most. 

I can't help but believe, and want to believe, the situation must have been dire for in this case for such a thing to happen. The article didn't exactly describe the previous assault.  I thought for a moment if the role was reversed and it was a step mom being abused and mistreated by her spouse or adult stepchildren. If a step mom was the perp would it be viewed with the same pity and empathy for the abuse and mistreatment?

The reality of this is emotional abuse is the same as physical...sometimes worse because others don't see the results of the abuse. The result is unless we see it bruises, marks, etc. people dont try to help the victim as much because they don't see it. We read about emotional abuse every day that we read posts here. Sometimes physical. This article caused me a lot of thought today. 

Taking another persons life is never a remedy unless you are at imminent risk of your life being taken. I legally carry so my issue has nothing to do with guns. I just don't think this would be looked upon the same if this was a step mom being abused and was the perp. 

https://www.foxnews.com/us/fort-bliss-soldier-allegedly-killed-by-stepso...

 

 

 

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bananaseedo's picture

I"m going to take a guess that this has happened many times before, the kid finally had enough.  Nobody shoots another parent after a one time argument.  

SteppedOff's picture

I'm going to guess your guess is accurate. I hope there was more to the story than just this. 

At a divorce rate at more than half and add death of spouses...step situations are becoming more and more common...soon likely the majority.

My personal life experience there is no difference in the screwedupedness in step situations from divorce or death. It is absolutely the dysfunction of the people involved. My parent married a widow shortly after death of his spouse with several young adult kids....healthy, loving, respectful to all step situation even after 20 years. Years later I married a widow not the same...yikes, excuses, yikes, babies, yikes just a mess!

We step moms get the worst rap, reputations that precede us because of a designation, and just crappy all around mindset it HAS to be a step moms fault. I couldn't help but think if this situation had involved a step mom it would be in general, by society, viewed worse and by ALL means she likely deserved regardless what had happened to her.