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Disengaging from one but not the other

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Submitted by Stepped in what... on Wed, 04/25/2018 - 4:15pm

Hi!

Do any of you have any experience with disengaging from one twin but not the other? I am pretty sure that at their Birthday dinners it will be pretty obvious that one skid got a gift from me and the other didn’t get a gift and of course at Christmas. I am guessing SO would have to explain, if asked, that that perhaps the girl skid would have gotten a gift if she didn't ignore me or wasn't just outright rude but I thought I'd put it out there to try to be as prepared as possible.

 

 

O/T-- Things to discuss and line out before marriage

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Submitted by Stepped in what... on Mon, 02/12/2018 - 11:54am

Hello Step Talk homies!
SO and I are discussing tying the knot. This would be both of our 2nds marriages, so we'd like to get it right this time. This being said, I know we need to discuss finances and his skids will be over 18 YO when we do get married but I know there are a lot of topics to go over. I was hoping that you all could hit me up with topics or issues that you wish you would have discussed or that you suggest discussing. He will be signing a prenup so I will be protected with that but I KNOW you all are the ones with great input on things like this.

How does retirement work

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Submitted by Stepped in what... on Wed, 06/22/2016 - 1:25pm

I worry about how disengaging now backfires on me later.
If we keep finances separate and I don't ask or know what he spends his money on how the hell are things going to be when we retire?
In some cases I really do think that separate finances work but I'm always left with the question of what happens when you retire?
Notsobad said:
I want someone to travel with, eat out with, golf with. All those things cost money. So you either end up doing it alone or with friends because he has no money or he's still working.

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