Let me get to the heart of the matter. The bm is sick, basically she is mentally ill. I don't really know what is wrong with her brain, I have my suspicions but I don't know for sure. Two years ago, she started sending us very alarming letters. She would tear her hair out and worry and fret and stare off into space for hours and talk endlessly about what she thought was happening to her. She'd barely concentrate on the children. H tried to get a lawyer at that time but he didn't have enough to go on until we got the letters. We tried to ignore it and deal with it as much as we could, basically just scared sh1tless that she could go over the edge without us even knowing what the "edge" actually was. She would come and stay with us for months...that has finally been put to an end. But now, sadly, we are trying to amend the petition to add on supervised visitation because we have not for years and frankly do not feel comfortable letting them visit her 2,000 miles away when she is this sick. We don't believe she would actually hurt the children but we cannot take that chance. Ever. So the crux of it is that my H will no longer allow her to stay in our home, but we refuse to pay for her to stay in a hotel or house or whatever while she is here. We might go halfway, but she wants 75% AND for us to pay for the place where she stays. She will have her two weeks or her summertime or whatever and then she will LEAVE when it's time to leave! She has been better in the last 6 months. I think this is only because her mind has made up something that makes her feel better but if ever her mind were to convince her that she is in danger again, she would go downhill again big time. We really do feel like it's just a matter of time.