StepLightly's Blog

Happy Hellidays!

‘Twas the night before Christmas
and all through the house
everyone is comfortable
except for DH’s spouse

The step mom has ensured
that everything is just right
doing everything possible
to avoid a big fight

But it’s just step mom right?
We hate her – she’s mean!
let’s be ungrateful again
the worse she’s seen!

The tension so thick
put on the fake grins
step mom will lose
everyone else wins!

MERRY F’***IN’ CHRISTMAS!!!

My husband called my SD19 and told her to stop calling me after her last snippy message to me. You were all right...she wants to blame me for all her relationship issues with her dad. So after 10 years of doing everything for this girl, my epiphany is this: For the past three months, I have experienced tremendous joy not having this girl in my life. My husband thinks it's impossible to have a relationship with his daughter when she hates me. WHY? I told him, "I support and even encourage you to have a relationship wit her, but it's healthier for me if I don't.

What would you do?

Haven't talked to my SD19 all summer. She's in town working (staying with BM) at a job my family got her. At beginning of summer she basically said she wanted nothing to do with me, but wants a relationship with her dad and it's my fault she doesn't have that. We've been married 10 years and honestly...I was always the one who set up time for her to spend with her dad. I've done more for this girl than my own kids. This summer, her and her dad have gone to a couple lunches, which she has instigated.

Need adult SD advice

OK, been married 10 years...have been pretty much been the mom to 19 year old SD during that time. Took her on girl trips, coached her teams..went way above and beyond. She's entitled and spoiled -- everyone has said that. Since Christmas she hates me and wants me out of her dad's life -- says she was neglected by us. Says she's jealous of her little siblings. Anyway, DH is being amazing and not allowing any disrespect. She is home for summer working (living with BM) and DH told her that a relationship with him is a 'package deal'.

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