...I'm so sick of ss20 being here and b/c he is not working and waiting to go to job corps, he sits around my living room all day. The last 3 days I have been sick, (better today so I worked a short shift) and he has sat around, he dominates the tv and he is ALWAYS talking. Also b/c he is here this draws ss16 out of his room and those two together will not shut up and will not budge. My living room is not a very pleasant environment for me at all.

Well I didn't really follow all of your advise but we did work out things with ss20. He moved into our shed. It's insulated and has power and we installed lights and a heater and rented a honey bucket for him for during the night b/c I refused to have him peeing in my yard. We moved our older hide-a-bed out there and he has hung a wool blanket over the door for extra warmth. He is allowed 3 showers a week and 2 loads of laundry. He needs to fend for himself for b'fast and lunch but can join us for our family supper meal.

I'm not sure how to react to this and I'm throwing it out on here to see how you all react. Dh wants ss20 to come over on thurs (remember he is homeless and jobless and living in his vehicle) to watch football, have supper and shower, do laundry and then DH wants ss to sleep in the shed. He says he wants ss to have a roof over his head and since I have said he can't live here he wants him to live in the unheated and half full shed. He is laying on the guilt like there is no tomorrow and this is about the last straw.

I watched Dr Phil with a client yesterday. It was about a girl at age 11 having a baby with her bf of 14 yrs old. Guess who was the one who finally got some help for these kids, the girl's step mom. Crazy. It was a sad show b/c the baby was born premie and was in the aunts custody and when Dr Phil sat down with the kids(parents of the baby) they were saying that eventually they want another kid but not right now. The young 12 yr old mom didn't even have visitations with her baby except 2 hours of supervised visitation each week.