Pretty sure my coworker is about to become a crazy BM
A coworker of mine has been dating this guy since the summer. He's childless, she's divorced and has a young child. He has told her from the get go that he wasn't interested in a relationship with someone with a kid. I know he's told her this over and over because she's been talking about it constantly since they met. I guess she just figured the more she gave it up, he might change his mind. Well, that never happened and he continued to mess around with her, all the while telling her that they weren't dating and she would never be his girlfriend.
Now, she's "accidentally" pregnant. He's pissed, and told her he wants nothing to do with the child and that they will never be together. She's really upset and doesn't understand why he's acting this way. Ummm...
Why she would even want to be with this guy at this point, or in the past, I don't even know. He's not that attractive, isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer (I've met him), and has treated her like complete shit from day one.
I HIGHLY suspect this pregnancy was not an accident. Not even two months ago she was telling me that her kid is 5 and she always wanted a second one, but doesn't want them to be too far apart in age, stuff like that. She's just been way too insistent on dating this guy who clearly doesn't want to be with her long-term, and now she's pregnant? Yeah, okay.
I didn't say it to her, but I don't think she has any reason to be upset. He was honest with her from day one and she continued to mess around with him thinking that he would magically change. I just don't have a lot of sympathy for people who ignore what other people tell them FLAT-OUT. If he had lied to her, that's one thing. She told me she "changed her birth control and didn't use a backup" - so you knew you were at risk and you didn't take precautions? Hmm.
I just can't believe that dumbass didn't use a condom. I don't feel sorry for either one, but I'm not looking forward to 9 months of having to hear about even more drama. I've listened to her for the last 6 months, talk about how every week he tells her "We aren't dating and will never date" after f**king like bunnies all weekend.
I feel the most sorry for a) the kid, and b) whoever this guy dates next or eventually marries. I'm sure she will end up on this site eventually.
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Some women are so dumb. I was
Some women are so dumb. I was just dating a guy, but after a few dates it became obvious he was just saying what he thought I wanted to hear regarding me having a child. I ended it. He said he just needed time, but as far as I am concerned that is crap, and I am not willing to risk becoming emotionally involved in something with no future. Cut the ties and move along.
So many of these women deserve exactly what they get!
Definitely sounds like a
Definitely sounds like a crazy BM in the making to me!
I'll never understand women who do this......although......sometimes I think maybe BM is smarter than me. I went to school for 7 years: 4 years for a degree and another 3 for a professional designation. I spent tens of thousands of dollars on my education and I now work full time to support myself and my daughter. Meanwhile, all BM had to do to be financially secure was pop out a baby with a guy who makes good money. Maybe these crazy chicks have got it all figured out.
I hear ya Teas. I feel the
I hear ya Teas. I feel the same way. I work my butt off and all BM had to do was have two kids and now she never will work a day in her life.
You and I have to take pride in supporting ourselves and our children. If something happened to our DHs, we would survive, these BMs wouldn't. They would be begging for someone to take care of them.
Sports Fan, you're right
Sports Fan, you're right about that. I know BM would come running to me for money if something happened to my husband.
I'd rather be me than BM any day. I actually think she's depressed and has no sense of purpose, while I'm very happy to get up and go to my job that I love every day. I'm very proud with what I've accomplished and the fact that I'm financially independent.
I so don't get this at all.
I so don't get this at all. What woman would want a man who clearly does not want her?! She must have some major self-esteem, self-worth issues. I always get a laugh at the fact that they think if they squeeze a child out the man will magically want to be with them. Yeah, doesn't work like that. If they had an ounce of self-respect they would attract a better kind of man... Just sayin...
This sounds like my BM. It
This sounds like my BM. It did work for a little while with SO, even the changing birth control pills. He stayed with her and tried to make it work for the kid, but he ultimately decided to leave after she started talking about having baby #2.
I feel so sorry for this kid.
If he was so insistent on not
If he was so insistent on not dating a woman with a child why did he sleep with her? Is 'just sleeping together' with no commitment OK? Did he think his sperm will march to his command and backstroke their way back up his penis? Why did he say "we ar not dating" yet he jumped her arse whenever he could grab it?
Sorry, he is just as stupid and egotistical as she is. Both as bad as each other.
The child would be better off with the Duggars.
He wasn't interested but he
He wasn't interested but he was happy to keep sleeping with her??? His dumb ass deserves all the hell that comes his way.
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Of course, he should have
Of course, he should have used condoms but I feel kind of bad for men as far as birth control goes. They have so few choices.
However, he should have just left her alone and found someone else, someone who also just wanted to screw around. If he had to tell her over and over again that he wasn't interested in a relationship, some part of him knew that she wanted one. And still, he kept sleeping with her and not taking proper precautions. Idiot.
She will probably never leave him alone, now. So, whether he wanted it or not, he will now be in some kind of relationship with her, even if just financially, for quite awhile. Dumb ass.