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Submitted by SoontobeWifeandMom on Wed, 05/06/2009 - 12:46am

I enjoy this site very much, but sometimes I feel as if my situation is very different from most of the others. So I was wondering how many can relate to my situation? I have a very young SD3, I have been in her life since she had barely turned one. To her I am a parent. Also BM and my fiancé were never married. They dated for a couple of months, fought the whole time, and when BM got pregnant they split. SD has never not had two different households. None of Soon to be Hubby's family likes BM so they were ecstatic when I entered the picture. BM is still very crazy and thinks that she was more important than she really was, but this lady is crazy to everyone in her life. Hence why FH can't stand her lol. She plays the victim and is selfish. But now I am more amused than mad about her craziness. Anyways, does anyone have a situation similar? Has anyone been in their step kids lives early on?

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Submitted by KeepsGettingBetter on Wed, 05/06/2009 - 1:01am

and have been in there life for the last 5 years. The youngest is SS7 so he was about 3 when I first met him.

You will also find that most of the BM that we talk about on here are crazy. They each have their own unique way of tormenting us and our relationships with their ex and skids.

Feel free to vent away, someone here will always have some sound advice for you and if not it's always healthy to get things off your chest.

Welcome!

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Submitted by Zimka on Wed, 05/06/2009 - 2:14am

I am stepmum to a handsome 15 month old boy. BF3 and BM were kinda friends when they hooked up and within 3 months she was pregnant with her third child (three different dads a whole another story) and kicking BF3 to the kerb when she was only 8 weeks pregnant. He took it really hard as she became the bitch from hell. BF3's family love me and hate BM cause she won't allow them access. We are slowly working through the courts so we can have equal access. BM thinks she is the only one that can care properly for SS. I have trouble with BM being irrational and one minute our best friend then the next causing a lot of drama.

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Submitted by SoontobeWifeandMom on Wed, 05/06/2009 - 8:47am

My BM had virtually nothing to do with SD till I came around. It was a mixture of me and SD finally being able to talk. BM is not an infant person, plus when SD was a baby she partied all the time. She used to tell FH that he was lucky she even let him see SD, he had her 50/50 since after BM's maternity leave was over. Anyways, she basically treated him like crap and he took it just being happy that he had SD so much. Then I came along lol and let’s just say she no longer says FH is lucky to see SD. We now have an amazing parenting plan that keeps SD safe from crazy BM, well at least as safe as we could get without having sole custody of her. I am so glad that other people are in similar situations. It is hard when people complain about ex wives because I make it a point to note that BM and FH were NEVER married.