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Submitted by SM12 on Tue, 04/16/2019 - 12:22pm

I won’t lie...my life and marriage have been 100 times better since my OSS21 and MSS16 have been PAS’d out by BM.  It’s amazing how much different our house feels now.  However, with all good things comes a price.  

For the most part municipal DH has gone through the phases of grief over losing his older

And the cycle continues

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Submitted by SM12 on Tue, 01/15/2019 - 9:37am

Back Story:   

BM has PASd oss21 and mss17 to the point they hate DH.  DH has done nothing wrong but BM has bashed him repeatedly to the point they make up Imaginary offenses and refuse contact.   It started slowly at first with the “you never take us to do fun things” crap as well as “you never buy us...(insert the demand of the moment) DH works weekend and BM uses that as a nail to drive through his heart with the SSs.  Every missed ballgame, BM was bashing DH to the SSs.   Every time he worked late they were rude and nasty to DH.  You get the point.

DH repeating the same mistakes

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 12/26/2018 - 2:45pm

For background info...my DH has three sons.   The older two are majority PAS’d out.  They will have nothing to do with him.  They are rude nasty entitled jerks who treated him like an atm.   And DH allows it.  He kissed their butt, allowed them to rule the roost until they finally lost every ounce of respect for him because he has zero backbone.   Honestly we lucked out when they stopped coming over. 

Real slick BM

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Submitted by SM12 on Tue, 12/11/2018 - 7:48am

DH mentioned yesterday that he went to peek at BMs Facebook to see if MSS went to some school dance or whatever and found out she had blocked him.   SO out of curiosity I looked and see that I have not been blocked.  And yes MSS did to to the dance. (MSS has been PASd for over a year now so we have zero contact). 

In my search I see another post made by BMs spouse and it had all the SSs tagged.  It was an article about how it is more important now than ever for parents to attend EVERY sporting event their child has.  

Double Standard

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Submitted by SM12 on Mon, 12/10/2018 - 2:15pm

i haven’t posted much lately, mainly because things in step hell have been pretty quiet.  Still no contact from OSS or MSS.   But I’m not too upset by that.

YSS still comes 50% of the week so DH is happy about that.  

Losing my mind

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Submitted by SM12 on Sat, 10/27/2018 - 12:41pm

This happens to be a kid weekend for us.  Not a big deal.  YSS is a decent kid who normally keeps to himself and DH is off work this weekend, which is rare. DH and I have been off work together this week.   Well last night YSS asked to have a friend stay.  No problem again.  The kid staying is polite and quiet and never a problem.   

 

Cell phone invasion

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Submitted by SM12 on Thu, 10/18/2018 - 9:23am

not sure how to deal with this issue...yes I have disengaged for the most part but some issues still creep in.    My issue deals with my YSS11 and his cell phone.   YSS is a pretty good kid and he and I get along much better than I ever did with OSS or MSS (who we never see anymore).   YSS isn’t exactly the issue or even the cell phone.  But how the phone is used is what eats at me.

EX family photos

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 10/03/2018 - 8:25am

DH and I had an interesting interaction this weekend.   We were at my MILs house helping her out as she is no longer able to be alone.   Her caregiver was off for the weekend so we stepped in to care for her.   In MILs house is a picture of DH,BM and two of the three SS’s.  This pic is old and has probably been there for 15 years.   I had noticed the pic early on in our 7 year relationship but never said a word about it.  As time went by, I never paid anymore attention to it.   

 

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