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Starting to realize...

That I stepped into a steaming pile of something with this marriage. In our living room, there is a big picture of the ex displayed prominently. I asked that it be removed or moved to the Skids room. Mind you, there are no pictures of me in the house. DH refused to take it down or move it because the co-parenting quack said it should be up and displayed prominently in our home. What kind of quackery?!

NarcisSkids

Maybe I've been watching too much true crime television, but I'm starting to develop a healthy fear of my Skids. We recently had a death in the family and one of my SDs reaction was suuuuper disturbing.

Chores and Gaslighting

So, for the past couple of months, I'm the only one in my household who does chores. Cooking, cleaning, you name it, I do it. The newest thing my DH does is that instead of owning up to the fact that Skids are not doing anything around the house (which he does not require them to do-so not a huge "own up" involved), he tells me that they've cleaned something that I actually cleaned. Seriously?!

Insufficient Boundaries/Discipline

DH actually heard my cries and started setting some boundaries. I actually think he's getting a little bit nervous about me going out of town in a few weeks, and thinks I might stay gone. That's the reason for the sudden responsiveness. He told SD13 not to just barge into the room without knocking (or without hearing a response to her knocks). He also told her not to get into our bed, but related it to her not having had a shower (which leads her to believe that it is appropriate to get into our bed when she HAS taken a shower).

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The Worst Part

The worst part of all of this is that it makes me feel differently about my spouse. His endless need for attention that interferes with him setting boundaries, his inability or unwillingness to protect or prioritize our relationship, all create tiny fissures in our relationship that undermine it. It makes me sad.

Tried to Talk Boundaries (tw: suicide)

Maybe feeling emboldened by the responses to "Beware the Mini Wife," I decided to talk to DH. He said he is going to have to talk to SD13's therapist before setting boundaries because last time he tried she threatened suicide.

I should add, I'm unsure if this is accurate or just a convenient way to end the conversation.

Seriously, why did DH get married? This is bullshit.

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Beware The Mini Wife

The mini wife (SD13) in my household has an affinity for DH's and my bed. When I am away, I come back to see her lying in my bed. She knows it bothers me, so as soon as I come home she gets up, but I'm like "why is she here to begin with?" Also, DH was on top of me in the bed the other day and she comes in and sits down on the bed next to us and is like "what's up guys?" Of course DH says nothing.

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