Self love and self respect isn't something that I can just give to my BS20 as a Christmas gift. I would if I could. I am hurting so bad these days. I am so worried about my BS. His BD and I were divorced when he was 9, and BD wasn't envolved at all he works for the railroad and lived 2 states away from us. BD always said that he couldn't live closer because he had to pay CS. My BS was diagonsed with ADHD when he was very young. I fought putting him on Ritalin until I was faced with teachers, principals, councelors telling me how badly that BS needed the medication.