He moved her up here last October without my full consent and now she's ready to go back to BM because she didn't want to be here in the first place. BM had been begging for her to be here because she can't handle her and now she's going back. She is about to finish her sophomore year and has been consistently failing since 9th grade and her grades started dropping in 6th grade.

SD has pretty much said she is definitely moving back with BM and I am hurt. I knew from the second I was told (not asked) that she was moving up here that this would happen. Now BM says she'll make sure SD does well in school even though she used her 40 hour/ week job as an excuse for SD failing before when she BEGGED DH to take her. DH also uses the same work excuse and we have 2 under 2 so it's wrong to make me deal with a possibly mentally ill teenager.

DH talked to SD and she said while she really misses her mom, she wasn't expecting to move back home. BM told DH that SD was lonely here and she "needs to be home." She also told DH that she and SD agreed that she was going to move home next month when spring break starts.

DH told SD that he just wants her to be happy and we understand and will accept whatever she chooses. She called GBM and they talked for awhile so I hope that helped. Even GBM knows how crazy BM can be so it's no surprise that BM is trying to manipulate a unilateral decision. 

I told her tonight that she's going home to live with BM again after 5 months of being here and DH saying we're switching custody after spring break.. SD had no idea she was going back home to live with BM permanently and neither of her parents bothered to bring it up.

No one communicates shit and I'm the messenger. I told DH and he said it's based on what she told BM because she doesn't tell either of us much of how she's feeling. BM said SD wanted to go back to home state and she was lonely here.