I remarried some years ago and initially my wife and I were happy, we are both retired now. She has 3 daughters from her previous marriage and I have

a son and daughter from mine (who do not keep in touch with me since I divorced their mother).

The advent of grandchildren it has been made clear to me by my wife that I am off the radar as far as priorities are concerned. She will disappear for

weeks frequently to look after the grandchildren and I am left on my own where I am accused of drinking too much, which is probably true as I am so