I remarried some years ago and initially my wife and I were happy, we are both retired now. She has 3 daughters from her previous marriage and I have

a son and daughter from mine (who do not keep in touch with me since I divorced their mother).

The advent of grandchildren it has been made clear to me by my wife that I am off the radar as far as priorities are concerned. She will disappear for

weeks frequently to look after the grandchildren and I am left on my own where I am accused of drinking too much, which is probably true as I am so

hacked off. My step daughters can be pleasant to my face, but, unfortunately when wife and daughters are together they exchange every piece of

information including the blackening of my character.My wife's mother and brother have not met me and will not do so on the basis they were close to my

wife's ex-husband. My wife when her daughters demand it will cancel pre-arranged events to look after and amuse her grandchildren. I am made to feel

awkward being family events and totally excluded from some.

I recently expressed my views pointedly to wife and step daughters and I am now villain of the piece. If I raise this issue with my wife I am described

as being paranoid and I have reached the stage that separation/divorce is the only practical solution.

The days together can be long and fraught awaiting the next argument about her daughters and grandchildren and I feel isolated and alone and very

unhappy.I would appreciate any comments or advice from others in this situation.