Not only does BM not trust me, neither does DH.

And I haven't been trying to parent the skids. I also have just been polite and addressed minor things with them. I don't go out of my way to do fun things with them and I let DH parent them. This because BM is insecure about me...she wanted stuff about no stepparent/grandparent having time alone with the skids. And the skids are in middle school/moving on to HS. It's silly.

DH and BS went out before I got home and got me the cutest little terrarium as a replacement Mother's Day present for the infected outdoor perennial they grabbed at the last second as the original gift. They both apologized for not planning ahead and putting so little effort in the first time. Plus they even bought my favorite cake. I wasn't expecting it at all. I had taken all of the advice from you about not paying any attention to stuff like that and not putting so much effort into all of them. Now, I was very touched but I'm also not stupid.

So, it so happened that I got proof again this morning of OSS being on his phone more than he should. He was on it at 11pm last night, from BMs. That's way past his bed time. DH has suggested to BM to put in controls (since she owns the phones they use to text, surf, etc.). But she insists that there's no need for anything.

Before anyone jumps on me, I did not tamper with the phone. OSS did something from the browser to access a site using an account we have. The account happens to send email when you log in from a "unlisted" device.

DH and BM had a no-child-support financial agreement where he paid for private school for a number of years. There was a "settlement" amount that at the end of years if the private school payments didn't meet that amount he owed her the difference.

He paid her the difference two weeks ago. It's not a huge check but it's not peanuts. He has a copy of it so we can show he wrote it out. He dropped it off at her office so people saw him. He wrote to his lawyer to let her know.