The last straw
I gave hubby the ultimatum last night that his daughter has to be out of my house today. My youngest is turning four on the Sat. and is having a party with some of her little friends. She wanted it to be a fairy princess party so I have been making her a fairy princess costume, she can wear it again for Halloween. She has been so excited about her party, dancing and singing to herself and telling everyone that she's a fairy princess. Now I realize that it can get annoying but she's little and excited about her birthday, it's her first big girl party with friends. Last night hubby and I as well as little one ran out to pick up dinner. When we got back his daughter had ripped up little one's costume and had trashed all the decorations and party stuff because she was tired of hearing about the party. My sweet baby girl is devastated and cried for herself to sleep. I told hubby that this is the last straw and I want her gone. Also told him that if he won't make her leave then they both can go. I won't have my little girl hurt by that nasty witch anymore. As far as I'm concerned it's over if he doesn't follow through. He has to understand that little one is his daughter too and he needs to protect her from bad things even if it is from his other daughter. Am I wrong to feel like this???
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Is this the 22 year old? I'd
Is this the 22 year old? I'd get her out immediately. Thats pretty sick behavior for an adult to do to a child and I'd ream your husband out and make him leave with her if he doesn't do anything about it. I hope you have time to salvage the party for your little one.
I'd be beyond pissed. What
:jawdrop: I'd be beyond pissed. What did DH say about SD's actions? How old is SD?
She's 22 the same age as my
She's 22 the same age as my oldest daughter. He tried to make me feel guilty for having a special party for little one. Then he said that his daughter was just jealous because I don't have parties like that for her. I tried when she was little but they were complete disasters so no more. I told him that she has until 5:00 pm to be out or I'm calling the police and have them remove her and if he disagrees he can go with her. His family can put her up and deal with her crap for a while. I'm soo over it and her.
After that response from my
After that response from my DH, his ass would be booted out as well. is he CRAZY to compare a 22 year old and a 4 year old? I wouldn't even give her until 5. I would be packing her stuff up NOW.
She would have been out of my
She would have been out of my house last night. And, with a reaction like that from DH...he would have been following right behind her.
I would move her out myself.
I would move her out myself. That is juvenile disturbing behavior. Good luck and big hug to your daughter.
How old is your SD? And your
How old is your SD? And your daughter?
If SD is 22 - then I agree 100% with Buttercookie. That is just beyond pathetic that a 22YO would act like that.
What does your husband have to say? What was his response to his daughter'e actions?
SD is 22 and she's jealous
SD is 22 and she's jealous that you don't throw her birthday parties? Does she still have a binky, too?
Heck yeah boot her out. Maybe she'll learn some real coping skills if she's forced to be an adult and move out on her own.
This is what I would be afraid of if I had had kids with BF. As pissed as I get when I feel slighted, it would be 1,000 times worse if the same thing were done to my child.
I would be committing some
I would be committing some vandalism of my own. I would have already ran SD's clothes through the food processor, and then dressed all the neighborhood dogs in what was left for a parade.
I'd like to add that if this
I'd like to add that if this Step is that unstable at 22 years old to sabotage a little child's party out of jealousy I'd seriously watch her around your little one. This is a red flag to not let the 22 year old be with your child unattended. If she'd slash a party dress and ruin a girls birthday what will she do to the girl if she gets into one of these rages of jealousy? Be safe
If your DH will not handle
If your DH will not handle this appropriately you need to go to the police. An individual who acts out like that against your possessions can escalate to violence against you or your daughter. If DH does not see this, he is part of the problem.
File a police report on the vandalism. You may have trouble because she was in the home with permission, but they at least need to write down that you came down there to report it, whether or not it's "actionable." Also inquire about a restraining order against her so that you have the information if things get worse.
Sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds like your DH needs to grow a set.
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How old is your little one &
How old is your little one & can you fix her coustume in time? As for as SD what a pathetic b$tch to do that to a little girl.
i think she said she was
i think she said she was 4....and I agree..... out, out, out!!! That's absurd! I had to re-read this twice, as I could NOT believe what I was reading!
Wow, just wow! SD22 is
Wow, just wow! SD22 is pretty whacked out to do something so insane to a 4 yr old child. Like some of the other posters, I'd be highly concerned she might take it a step further and physically hurt your 4 yr old. This chick desperately needs anger management classes! I wouldn't have waited even an hour, I'd have literally tossed this whacko out on her arse as soon as I'd discovered the damages. There's no excuse for her behaviour....what a piece of work! I hope you can get your little girl's costume fixed or replaced and get more decorations. If SD22 has a job, I'd be taking the money out of her hide!
You're absolutely NOT
You're absolutely NOT wrong...what your step-daughter did was beyond out of line. How cruel is it that this adult chose to pick on a little kid and destroy something that she knew meant the world to that little girl?
I agree...kick her out!
Now I see the age, OMG BS
Now I see the age, OMG BS just turned 3 & he is crazy about Toy Story everything he owns is that & it was his party theme. It was his first kid party & it was all he talked of & still is talking about. He like to play dress up too & has a fireman costume, Bob the builder costume & now Sherrif Woody. My skids are 10 & 12 & would NEVER EVER do that. How sad your husband is to make excuses for her, I also would be afraid as to what she would do to your child when you weren't around.
I am confused!! SD admitted
I am confused!! SD admitted to trashing this stuff and your DH is OK with this?
You're poor little 4 year
You're poor little 4 year old... my heart breaks for her. What a disappointment! Will you be able to salvage anything?
You're DH sounds like a fool... his heart should be breaking for his 4 year old too!
OMG! i would have lost it big
OMG! i would have lost it big time..... and dh, wtf is he thinking?? hopefully the little bitch will move out and do something like this to someone her own size and get the shit beat out of her!
i hope it goes as smooth as possible (lots of screaming and name calling) and doesn't escalate to violence at your home this afternoon. keep us posted and good luck on salvaging things for bd party!
Me too, me too!!!
Me too, me too!!!
I hope you manage to get her
I hope you manage to get her out. It sounds as though she needs to bloody well grow up! And some drastic action may be the only thing that makes that happen. Your poor little girl. Her big sister is clearly no role model for her, and your priority has to be to protect your daughter from such horrid behaviour.
By the way you have my FULL empathy. My eldest sd is 22 and my daughter is 20 months. When ds got married she refused to let my daughter sit with the family during the ceremony, we ended up at the back of the church. And during the breakfast we were sat so far at the back of the room we were nearly out the door AND she refused to order her sister any food whilst I was ordered only a half portion. Bitch. The thing I don't get is why take it out on a helpless child?? They're innocent for Gods sake!
well, i hope you got her a
well, i hope you got her a super shitty wedding gift, vicks!
That'll be nothing. I didn't
That'll be nothing. I didn't get a gift. Nothings good enough for her anyway and I couldn't afford the Tiffany stuff she wanted.
Vicks, Ha! When I was a kid
Vicks,
Ha!
When I was a kid and would ask for something rediculous my dad would put his arm around my shoulder, pull me close and say ....
"Nothing is to good for you my son ......... and nothing is exactly what you are going to get" then he would kiss the top of my head.
Best regards.
@Readytoscream sorry for
@Readytoscream sorry for hijacking your post! But it's good to get that off my chest! I love this forum! Please let us know how things go!
@Rags thanks for making me chuckle!
OMG, I'm with the
OMG, I'm with the others...that is totally freaky and unacceptable for her to do that to your little sweetheart! She sounds like a total psycho. Take pictures for the Hall of Shame. And the police.
The sad thing is that his
The sad thing is that his family doesn't want her in their homes either. He has 2 sisters and they as well as his mother and father said they are scared of her and don't want her around. He seemed to think that if he got macho I would back down. I reminded him that this is my house that my late husband paid for and that he and his daughter moved in here not the other way around. I sent little bit to my sil and had all 5 of my brothers come over and pack her clothes and personal belongings and take it all out of my house. Then I had a come to Jesus meeting with my husband. In the end he took her to a cousin's house and came back to help clean up the damage that his monster had done. I hated to have to be so hard on him but NO ONE messes with one of my babies.
Yay! Finally, a win for the
Yay! Finally, a win for the SM's.
Good on you for standing up to DH and booting his nasty off-spring. I hope one of your brothers had a quiet word in DH's ear and told him next time they would be back for him. }:)
Whoo Hoo Great to see the
Whoo Hoo
Great to see the tiny innocent 2nd marriage kids stood up for!!!!Sometimes it seems like in the drama of divorce it gets forgotten that they are people too and best interests of the child only for the ones whose parents divorced.
My SD is much younger and has never done anything like that to my BD3, but many people have commented to me on her jealousy and I fear leaving them alone. I've had recurring dreams of her smothering her little sister in her crib for a while because her resentment is obvious and all the other adults in her life feed it..
BRAVO! Good for you!
BRAVO! Good for you!
I think you handled it
I think you handled it perfectly. ((hugs)) I can't even imagine the anger you must be feeling. It's one thing when someone hurts you. But when they mess with your child....well, I'm not sure I would have handled things as calmly as you did.
Your husband is an idiot if he doesn't see this as a huge deal. Your SD needs to be locked up in the psych ward!
Don't forget to change your
Don't forget to change your locks!
Good for you! The evil one is
Good for you! The evil one is 22--why can't she find her own place? God, by that age I had supported myself for 5 years. Another clue that she has issues.
Uhhh.... I have nothing
Uhhh.... :jawdrop:
I have nothing more to add than what everyone else said. She is toxic and needs a life of her own.
UN-FREAKIN-BELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!
UN-FREAKIN-BELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Someone needs to have this chic COMMITTED.....