Even when she's not here she won't go away
Since I threw sd out last night she has been calling none stop. I let it go to vm but she won't get the message. Husband talked to her and told her to call his cell but she continues her campaign of terror and harassment. I'm ready to start pulling my hair out. Now husband is saying that I should let her come back because she's been punished enough. It's beginning to look like I may have to have my brothers come back and move him out.
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it's called "Call Block" ~
it's called "Call Block" ~ hell no, don't let her back especially since she is displaying this behavior, like things will get better if you give in to her........tell dh to get his head out of his ass and try to locate that set of balls he was born with!
Oh hell no to her coming
Oh hell no to her coming back. She needs to grow up. I agree with you, if your DH can't pull his head out of his ass, have him leave too. I can't believe he would accept that behavior from a grown child.
HELL NO! Get new door locks!
HELL NO! Get new door locks! I just read the post that explains why you kicked her out. Stick to your guns. This girl has some serious issues. Adn if Dadd Dearest can't see that what his older child is doing to hurt his younger child, he has a problem too. It's your house. Stick with it. And contact the police... If she's calling now, that is harassment.
Be strong for Baby Girl!
Be strong for Baby Girl!
She is calling from different
She is calling from different numbers so I can't block them all. Husband is out of town overnight on business and won't or can't do anything about it. My oldest brother is sending his boys over to stay with us until husband gets home. I don't think she'll try anything but I want to be prepared just in case. The cousin that he sent her to sent an e-mail saying she had to make her leave because of starting problems with her children. So no one knows where she's at or who she is with. Of course I'm sure I'll get blamed for this as usual.
besides, how is a 22 year old
besides, how is a 22 year old having to live on her own "being punished"?
Keep that crazy %$#@^% away from your little girl! As for the DH, not even sure what to say - many fathers are rather blinded when it comes to 1st marriage kids, but this is ridiculous! The old fashioned frying pan may be the only way to go for him LOL.
How could it be illegal to
How could it be illegal to throw out a person that insists on allowing a dangerous person access to your young child? just asking
BF, I think I would disagree.
BF, I think I would disagree. If SD22 is capable of physically destroying things in the home where the DD lives, then she's clearly a threat to DD. SD22 MUST have some sort of MI to do what she did.... this makes her a risk.
I don't think it's illegal to throw your DH out.... on what grounds would that ever be considered illegal?
While you are technically
While you are technically correct it is illegal to just kick people out without notice who have established residency at your home, She does not legally have to keep them there either. She can and should call the authorities let them know she feels unsafe and she should seek an order of protection, While the 22 year old did not physically attack the child yet all signs show she's unstable mentally and I think it would be irresponsible and dangerous for the OP to keep this unstable 22 year old in the home since she has already displayed inappropriate rage at a 3 year old. I'd really hate for the OP to just let it go and then wake up one day and her child is harmed, the guilt of not doing all she could to protect her child would ruin her. I forgot to add Dad can be forced to go too is he's going to allow the 22 year old access to the home.
I never advised her to file a
I never advised her to file a bogus Order of Protection and I don't appreciate you saying that I'm advising her to. If she feels her or her child is in danger she not only has the right to file one she has an obligation to for the safety of her own child. The behavior her SD is displaying is very dangerous and unstable for her own child to have to be subjected to in her house. The 22 year old needs help but that isn't her problem her obligation is to her minor child. Hopefully the 22 year old will find the help she needs and move on to be a successful person. Sadly many people who are mentally ill don't get the help they need and I'm not saying the 22 year old is mentally ill, I'm not a doctor but she's displaying behavior that makes any reasonable person believe she is. No please stop attacking what I say here or try to insinuate I'm saying something I'm not.
I actually agree with BF on
I actually agree with BF on this one. Stand your ground FIRM that SD22 stays out! (Not sure why she's still there anyway after the age of 18?)
IMO if H doesn't like this he can go of his own accord - you don't HAVE to throw him out. If H doesn't like it HE CAN LEAVE, but SD would NOT be stepping a foot back into my home - not even to use the restroom!
Um - If it is her house, she
Um - If it is her house, she can. If he is not on the Title or Mortgage, she can. She needs to if he is not seeing his daughter is dangerous. She is 22 years old and needs to leave. If he doesn't see that, then he needs to be removed, until he does.
Actually I'm not sure about
Actually I'm not sure about this - maybe it depends on the state you are in? Unless H is a threat HIMSELF he is legally entitled to 30 days notice in most states - this is the case even for a STRANGER you "board" in your home, right?
SO's best friend came home to
SO's best friend came home to find his girlfriend (never married but have a 4yo together) got a RO against him. He's been out on his butt since that day. House is in both of their names. He's out, she's in. Not a damn thing he can do about it per the Judge when they went to court over the RO. He can set-up ONE time, with the Sheriff in tow, to go get his belongings.
Besides, wasn't this about getting the RO against the SD22 not the OP's husband?
Are you a lawyer? I know for
Are you a lawyer? I know for a fact that if her child or she is in danger she can have her adult SD and anyone who is allowing the adult SD to come back to the house removed if there is a danger which based on the behavior that she discribed sounds dangerous she can and should have one or both of them removed. It happens all the time and I work in law enforcement so I see it happen.
Oh hell no! She stays out
Oh hell no! She stays out and DH needs to grow some sack and take the lead in keeping this message clear in her mind.
Let him listen to her rant messages then ask him how clearly he thinks she has learned her lesson so far.
Not that you asked for my opinion but I will be happy to make this decision for your sack deficient DH.
IMHO of course.
He has no say what so ever
He has no say what so ever about my house and property, he signed a prenup. As for sd I rather let a viper into my house than have her come back. Yes she has been violent toward little bit before. When she was a baby sd would pinch her to make her cry and she left bruises and bloody welts on her. It only happened when husband was left alone with them, never when I or my other children were there. He would make excuses for it happening, like she did it to herself playing. I finally put baby cams ever where and got the truth on video. After that I made sure little bit was never alone with them. I saved all the videos just in case.
Uh, ok, when DD4 was a baby
Uh, ok, when DD4 was a baby SD22 was 18, right? WHY did you let her stay after that? SD22 would've been out on her butt back then if it were me!
Hmmm. Let me see. After her
Hmmm. Let me see. After her outrageous behavior, she was immediately kicked out of her cousin's house and is now harassing you continuously. Where is the evidence of remorse there? Your DH is obviously under her thumb. There is nothing more unattractive than a 20 year old having a tantrum. Keep those crazy messages and I would concur that your brothers should be there with you. Who knows if she will show up?
Stick to your guns your baby
Stick to your guns your baby girl deserves to have her mother stick up for her and not let an adult step sister ruin her life. If you let crazy 22 yo back your daughter is in danger.
I would like to clarify the
I would like to clarify the issue over the house. My late husband and I bought the house when I was pregnant with our youngest son. When my late husband died his insurance paid off the house and property. Present husband came into the picture years later. It never was his house, his name has never been on the deed, it was mine before marriage to him. Also I have an attorney and have had one for many years for private and business reasons. The reason that his daughter lived with us after she turned 18 was because I felt pity for her and tried to do the right thing. Now the right thing is for her to not be here and if my husband can't or won't defend his baby girl then he doesn't need to be here either.
<< Now the right thing is for
<< Now the right thing is for her to not be here and if my husband can't or won't defend his baby girl then he doesn't need to be here either.>>
Perfectly stated! I hope things work out for you and your little one and that your DH gets his head out of his ass about his BD22.
"The reason that his daughter
"The reason that his daughter lived with us after she turned 18 was because I felt pity for her and tried to do the right thing."
No good deed goes unpunished, right? Yeah, I've been there. Which is why I decided that there will be no more SKs living full-time in my home whether they are over 18 or under (well, I guess unless the child is still UNDER 18yo AND BM is dead or child is homeless)! SS ruined that opportunity for his little sister, SD stb 12 (well, and my H, like yours, had a lot to do with it too!)
As for H, yes, I've been there too. I also owned my home prior to my marriage - H is not on the deed and has never paid 1 penny toward the mortgage so this is definitely NOT his house nor his children's that that are NOT ours together. However, when I've had issues in the past with H's kids that he didn't agree with I simply put my foot down about what I was going to accept in MY HOUSE and that was it. H had a CHOICE, he could deal with it or GO - no "putting him out" necessary. Tell your H like I told mine, if he wants his adult child to live with him he can get his own place and let the "child" stay there!