I see lots of new people on here! Hope everyone is trudging through Planet Stepparents okay. Here is my update. Thought I could do the whole support each other and keep things to ourselves and just love each other, but I need my outlet back!

FDHs battery charges got thrown out! Crazy kept calling our county trying to get to the prosecutor I guess and they saw her crazy and inconsistent stories so they told FDH as long as he does 40 community service and pay probation till its done they will expunge the chargesbfrom his record. Didn't even have to apper in court for that one. That was the good news. Of course we are getting more broke because of him having to that instead of work, and all the other meetings about custody and the kids progress, etc. Custody hearing moved for the millionth time to July.

SS10 is still with BM, and on the same schedule as before he got taken into state custody. She is finally working, has moved and gave FDH a bogus address. She is still having home visits, she is still breaking the agreement she made to behave herself, and one of the social workers has had to get onto her numerous times for her harassment, her obnoxiousness, and her disregard fir following the no contact except text and email except for picking up and dropoff of SS10. She has been told by the social worker and the other advocates for the kids that all of the eyes are on her, not FDH . At least until the attorneys get the right address, they are doing pickup and dropoff at her church. SS10 is still barely talking, still being sneaky at times, and I'm still annoyed with it.

SS8 is still in state custody at the residential behavior facility. He's progressing well the therapists say, I've been able to visit a few times with FDH on Saturdays. The boys have been able to speak to each other a few times now. Most of SS8's outbursts or questionable behavior are when BM visits him. The staff has told her numerous time she has no business telling him she's going to get him out of there and asking if he loves her or telling him the details of the court meetings regarding his care and what is going on with the custody case. She does it anyways.

We are bleeding out financially. I'm trying to get FDH to tell me about tools and accessories and such I can try and sell, etc.He can barely think about aanything other than the boys, BMs bullshit, work, the case, and the nasty. I'm over it. So desperate and sad and wondering how long until it will get better bc according to FDH it will and we just need to be together blah blah blah