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I am not comfortable going.....

part-timedad's picture

My 10 BD is getting baptised tommorow at the church that I used to go to in the town that I used to live and her grandma and grandpa attend and are very involved. We are talking a church that may have an average attendance of 25 at the most. A very small church to say the least.She asked me to come earlier this week.They decided that they did not wan to come to our house this weekend cause they just didnt want to. Thats a whole other issue. My thing is that I am not comfortable going to her baptism at all. I know I should go for my daughter but I just can't make myself go. My 15 year old BS texted me earlier today and laid a guilt trip on my that I wasnt going. I am sorry but I dont feel comfortable going, Does that make me a bad person?

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thegoodwife's picture

You need to go, whatever the reason is you feel uncomfortable, you need to put that aside. If you are afraid your EX parents (are they the ones you refer to as your BD grandparents?) are going to say something to you, you should not worry. IF they do they will look like the idiots not you. If they are so holy then they should have the common sense to keep their opinions to their selves for this occasion. This is a pivotal moment in your daughter's life. Whatever happened to cause a break up with your children's mother, is a moot point. Don't let other people keep you away from important dates in your children's lives!

thegoodwife's picture

AS a former Witness myself, I would strongly oppose my child being baptized. They don't baptize children anyway, so this can't be the issue. I still think he should have attended as a show of support for his child regardless of his personal opinions re: the grandparents, the other church goers, etc.

Tx mommy of 3's picture

Go. Period. Your daughter asked you to go and wants you there. That is reason enough to go. Years ago ss had his 'confirmation'. We aren't catholic but bm is. It was takin place in a small town where my dh and bm met/dated. Everyone knew their history and 'all about' my dh. All bm's family was going to be there. So many reasons to feel uncomfortable. But dh and I went with our baby at the time. We even went to a special meal afterwards. It was only a few hours and veryone survived!