Of course there has to be a picture of BM sent by SD
Overall good weekend, just my kiddos and bf and I. After an extremely stressful week for me was able to unwind this wknd. Had an outing on Saturday w/the boys and bf...Sun/Mon it rained so we stayed aroudn the house-made homemade pizzas....and steak au poivre the next day 
All went well except for the fact that Monday am-bf gets hit up w/about 15 texts back to back-all from SD sending pics of her trip this wknd w/BM to the beach (MUST be nice to afford that)-anyways....a little later she calls to tell him about the trip. As he hangs up I said, I'm surprised she didn't send pics of BM in all those (I hadn't asked earlier)...so he laughs and said funny you mention that because she did, just one of her abd BM on a moped-...of course I went off...i don't know if it's accidental, or BM said send this, or sd didnt' think..but seriously that kind of shit just pisses me off. Bad enough I have to deal w/his parents giving the golden uterus treatment even though they despise BM....we've been together 2 1/2ys and now you're using SD's phone to send "family pics" to your ex??? Seriously??? WTF! Whether it was bm's doing, or sd, or a slip...still pisses me off. BOUNDARIES BITCHES! Ever heard of them?
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Probably a good idea to give
Probably a good idea to give a small reminder indeed I think...thing is...this "picture" stuff has happened before-it was on one of my old blogs, about a year ago...she was carrying her moms old wallet that had pics of them together, wedding pic, when dating-why the mom still had those is beyond me-and why sd brought it with her I have no clue-it then accidentally stayed in my cars glove compartment because I ketp forgetting it (we were out shopping when she put her wallet in there)-and SD wasn't asking for it-finally I tossed it at bf and told him I didn't want that in my car...he had it in HIS car and sd kept forgetting it-so he threw it away.
Ughhh
After our BM lost custody of
After our BM lost custody of her kids, she kept telling SS11 that his aunt had a puppy for him (real nice when she only had supervised visits huh? and then the pup died). She sent BF a pic of the puppy and of course her fat ass had to be in the pic.
He just deleted it and didn't even show SS.
I tend to think that even
I tend to think that even though it's annoying occasionally being presented with pictures which include BM, it's better to try to rise above it because pointedly telling SD not to show any picture which includes BM can only make the child feel uncomfortable, and make her more secretive about what goes on when she is with BM. If your SD did send the pictures then maybe it represents her being open and happy to share her experiences with you, rather than shut you out of her life with her mother? I.e. it says good things about her relationship with you? At any rate this is the view I've taken with my SD, who only yesterday showed me a video on her phone of her half brother dancing, which she thought was really cute, unfortunately he was dancing with BM. Was I happy to have to watch footage of a woman I dislike intensely, no, but the annoyance was short lived, and I would rather SD felt able to be open with me about life at BM's house. On the other hand if I thought SD was doing it in a deliberate provoking way then maybe I would consider getting DH to gently ask why she felt the need to keep showing him pictures of her mother.
I put pics of bm with skids
I put pics of bm with skids in their rooms to help make them more comfortable here. as much as i hate her she's still their mom and i never ever had to look at them. My kids have pics of their dad in their room and dh doesn't care at all.
LOL!! I love it, "Boundaries
LOL!! I love it, "Boundaries B!TCHE$" - can I quote you on that and use it at my office? hee hee.
My BD still has a photo of me and her father in her room, as does my son. As did I when I was growing up. I had a pic of my BM & subsequent SD's (LOL), and my BD & SM in both rooms at both houses. To this day, all four [current] parents occupy the same picture place on my mantle.
I did talk to my BF before the kids moved in and explained that while he and I think the X is a flaming turd, that we need to let the kids come that notion on their own, and they will - eventually. That time in between is SO hard.
So because we decided not to make a big deal out of it, I get pics of the Xturd all the time. AND his new GF - who is a rail and has a big set of fake hoo-has that my son stares at. LOL.
At any rate, maybe you could just tell your H to "conspiratorily" mention it to his BD that it upsets her SM to see them, and he cant have you upset because he loves you? That's what my Dad said to me when I put up a single pic of my mom in my room years ago...so I put up one of her and her new hubby (at that time anyway). lol. It worked, my SM calmed down and I thought I was helping my dad.