Backstory: SS22 "borrowed" $500 dollars from us over a year ago for a washer & dryer. DH and I agreed that lending him the money would be a good way to determine if he was going to be financially responsible. The deal was if he made an effort to pay it off (even $10.00) we would forgive the loan, if not we would not loan him more or co-sign on any loans. He made no attempt to pay whatsoever.

In the meantime SS22 recently has been hitting DH up for new tires and to pay to get his dog fixed.

So tonight DH tells me that SS22 asked him for a favor. For what DH asks. Here it is.....

Wait for it...

A set of drums!!!

Why??? Because he needs a new hobby! Haha.

I know we all love our husbands to death, (why else would we put ourselves in these insane situations) but my strong, very intelligent, soldier (27 years) (only say that to show he has huge leadership abilities), what does he do?

DH tells him to go to the bank and get a loan and DH will sign for him! Are you kidding me? (When i asked Dh about the "no cosign deal, until he paid the debt"', DH said he forgot about that. )My kids are younger so I have always had a hard time giving him crap about his kids, because who knows what kind of crap my kids are going to pull over the years. But I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I will not be buying or consigning on a loan for a set of drums for a 22 year old, because he is bored! I am so sick and tired
Of putting up with all of this BS because I have no idea what my kids are going to do down the road.

When I told DH that his son needs to grow up and prioritize needs vs. wants, he said, " if your going to gripe every time I tell you something (about my kids) then, I will stop telling you anything about them. I told him, "two can play that game.) although it's true, I really would prefer not to go down that road.

Anyway, I got off on a tangent, feel free to reply to that too.'

Bottom line: My completely and totally rational, emotionally detached (but tries really hard) DH has agreed to cosign for a set of drums for his 22 year old son.

One last thing, SS22 asked him, " So you expect me to go talk to someone at the bank? I am guessing that DH will be making a visit to SS22s bank soon. :sick:

Really feeling like getting a really good drum beat going on my DHs ass right now!!!

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