SS11 has been in his preteenage mode of talking back and disrespect all year. DH gets on me about taking it too personally and needing to back off on doling out consequences, which I think has just added to his snottiness. This morning I over hear them arguing about how SS is creating a disruptive household, and SS at some point of going back and forth says something sarcastic and disrespectful back, so DH tells him he's grounded from media and SS loses it. Then I overhear DH tell SS that he better shape up or he's going to be grounded for real.

This was a rough morning. I go to the car where SS11 and SS9 are waiting for me to take them to school. As I get in, SS9 tells on his brother for taking his hat, SS11 tells me his brother gave it to him, so I tell him to give me the hat. SS11 knows how to relax his eyes to give the "I don't give a f*** what you are saying" blank stare, which he quickly gives to me. I tell him again to give me the hat, and he says why. I tell him because I don't have time to determine whose hat it is, after another round of this I tell him to give me the hat or I'll smash your Xbox.