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Why is feeding so territorial?

Nise's picture

Submitted by Nise on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 11:37am

What’s the deal with food/feeding?! I remember reading someone’s post last week (or the other day…there is so much to keep up with anymore!) about a biomom saying that she would “pack the kid a lunch”…well SD6 showed up for her visit yesterday (late) with “her dinner” in hand…now mind you…we’ve been doing this since 2002 and she’s never came with dinner before…I think it is a control thing b/c honestly we didn’t think that she would bring her at all after the weekend we just had…but sending her food was a way to try to exert control in some odd way (could it be connected to the whole “breastfeeding thing” as in I’m her mother…I will feed her…maybe that is a stretch?!). Needless to say, when she went back to her mothers, she went carrying the same bowl of food she arrived with…

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lovin-life's picture

Submitted by lovin-life on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 11:47am

You pack a lunch for an "outing".....NOT to go to your perfectly capable of parenting & feeding a child... Dad's house. That's Funny!!!!!

Glad the food went back!!!!

Message should be recieved loud & clear....

Cindy's picture

Submitted by Cindy on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 11:50am

Yeah - seems very odd behaviour - the human mind is a very curious thing - I wonder what drives biomoms to do half the ridiculous things they do - I don't have bio kids but I'd like to think if I were in a biomom's shoes I'd be extremely grateful that my kids had a stepmom who thinks the world of them and wants only good things for them.

happy's picture

Submitted by happy on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 12:15pm

What I would have done is sent the child in the house asked the mom to wait that I wanted to give her something, once the child was in I would have opened the door and gave it back to the bio mom..
My husbands ex made us something for some holiday once and her kids were the only ones to eat it. It was an odd feeling.
What a strange situation. Just a bio mom insecure about her childs love for her. Glad I am not like that.. THANK HEAVENS.. My mom must have done something right..

Dawn-Moderator's picture

Submitted by Dawn-Moderator on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 12:43pm

My stepson's biomom has sent doggy bags of food that stepson didn't finish when she took him out to dinner. Sometimes it was such a small amount that it wasn't even worth packaging up. Stepson wouldn't even want to eat it. I don't know why she would have sent him with it unless she was trying to prove something! Whatever..........I throw it away. End of story.

Dawn

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Submitted by Nymh on Wed, 08/23/2006 - 4:51pm

That's exactly what I'm planning on doing if ss shows up with his food in hand on next visitation! She may think that sending food with him is her way of displaying her control over the situation, but she's sadly mistaken. I refuse to lay down and let her play her games and walk all over me. I'm not even going to throw it away...just send it back home with them.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

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Submitted by artsymom on Tue, 06/02/2009 - 1:56pm

did the same thing, sent them with their backpacks full of special k diiet bars, (BM is a fatty) coco puffs and fruit snacks. keep in mind no clean clothes, pjs or undies, just junk food. God how i hate that bit**